enabling

I hope you can share some guidance and insight. My fiancé is enabling her daughter and it’s spilling into/affecting our relationship. Some background: We live together – have dated 4.5 years, both in our mid-50s, plan to get married in 3 months. She has 2 adult children (both early 20s)...

My oldest son is 22 and has been battling with anxiety and drug abuse for the past two years. I'm not sure what drug he is abusing - I think it is some sort of Xanax or benzo or something. He becomes a different person. He lies to me - everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie. He steals...

Our 21 year old son is in jail for stealing at a local store but we expect him to get out soon. He is a drug addict (weed and meth as far as we know). We have been supporting him off and on but are trying to do better and stay firm. We have not bailed him out even though bail is only $100. I...

I was at work today my second day of orientation on my new job and I get a text from Cop Mom. “Just a heads up. I’m out of town today until late Thursday night. With my dad so no rides to school. That alway how I ensure they go. As that is the deal. All day everyday They are fine at...

yup another night gone to pot as far as sleep goes. It’s after 1 am and I am fuming and can’t sleep. Son is in jail. Had a family friend visit him on Thursday and he was in the throws of detox. We decided to give it another week before we visit and I get this text this evening that has me...

My 19 year old daughter texted finally after the last text on Sat saying she didn't feel well. (phone got charged somehow...I think she's been sleeping at the park and friends). She lost her EBT card. I will pick her up and drop her off at the services dept. She got a gift card for her birthday...

Warning, this is gonna be long. Having a very hard day...after several very hard years. I've been lurking around this website for a while now, thankful to have found it about a week ago. Our 19 year old daughter is once again, home "visiting" after her stay downtown at the park (or possibly...

Well today AS/Difficult Child says he doesn't feel he needs in patient rehab, he feels he needs and anger management course and that is all. He has not been contributing in any way to the household what so ever. Continues to come home high. Has missed school and been late all but 1 day in 3 weeks...and we...

NOTE: I have opted to distance myself from my mother and brother. I only refer to my brother as “Ruprecht”. I do not care anymore about Ruprecht because this has gone on so many years and he is now in his early 30’s. It has torn my parents apart (40+ years together) as well as my once good...

Hello, I was desperately searching the Internet looking for any advice at all and I came across this site. My long story as briefly as possible: My almost 21 year old is no longer living with us. His downward spiral started when he was 18 and went to college. He did nothing while there. For...