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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 678685" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Thanks for the update, drowning. I think you are making tremendous progress. Often, once they are gone, we start feeling our feelings and they take us back to them.</p><p></p><p>You are still standing strong right now. What progress that is!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I remember being at the point when I wrote him lots of things...and then finally...when I stopped doing that. It's okay either way. Sometimes it is cathartic for us to spill it all out...to THEM...on paper. We can take another step forward after. But also, like you said, it engages us again with them and we have to hear it all again. And you know what? They already know all that we are going to say. We've said it a million times already. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Hang in there the best you can. If you stumble, that's okay. This is not some perfection contest. We are real live hurting people doing the best we can every day. We love. That is what makes this so very hard.</p><p></p><p>I finally realized I can love from a distance and I can love silently. That never stopped. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Keep going! Keep growing and changing, and along the way, you will find a New You, and you will love this New You. </p><p></p><p>Having physical proximity to them makes it really hard all over again. Getting away physically is such a relief and a great break. It will be harder when you are "back there". No doubt. </p><p></p><p>Let us know how you are doing and what we can do to help. Warm hugs this morning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 678685, member: 17542"] Thanks for the update, drowning. I think you are making tremendous progress. Often, once they are gone, we start feeling our feelings and they take us back to them. You are still standing strong right now. What progress that is! I remember being at the point when I wrote him lots of things...and then finally...when I stopped doing that. It's okay either way. Sometimes it is cathartic for us to spill it all out...to THEM...on paper. We can take another step forward after. But also, like you said, it engages us again with them and we have to hear it all again. And you know what? They already know all that we are going to say. We've said it a million times already. Hang in there the best you can. If you stumble, that's okay. This is not some perfection contest. We are real live hurting people doing the best we can every day. We love. That is what makes this so very hard. I finally realized I can love from a distance and I can love silently. That never stopped. Keep going! Keep growing and changing, and along the way, you will find a New You, and you will love this New You. Having physical proximity to them makes it really hard all over again. Getting away physically is such a relief and a great break. It will be harder when you are "back there". No doubt. Let us know how you are doing and what we can do to help. Warm hugs this morning. [/QUOTE]
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