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1 year later, nothing has changed. Trying to let go, i need help
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 554424" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>First you have to realize, this is your difficult children problem/issue, not yours. That sounds really simple, but it's not that easy. He is an adult, responsible for his behavior (regardless of drugs/alcohol), and should be made to feel the consequences of poor decisions/behavior/choices. </p><p></p><p>Eliza is right, as an adult you can't force difficult child to do anything. The only thing you have control over is what you will and will not do, what behavior of his you will and will not tolerate. So it's usually a good idea to sit down and think about and write up those boundaries. It makes it easier if you can think of situations that might arise beforehand and have an idea of how you'll handle it. </p><p></p><p>When someone becomes an addict, it literally takes over their life and becomes the center of their universe. From that point on, nothing else matters except the drug, acquiring the drug. It really really stinks, but that is how it works.</p><p></p><p>You can offer rehab, but until it's his idea, odds are it's going to be wasted money. </p><p></p><p>I believe somewhere here the ways to help to detach are archived, so maybe one of the mods can direct you to it. </p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us. But you might also look into a counselor for yourself as well, someone in person to talk to can be a huge help for many parents.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 554424, member: 84"] Welcome to the board :) First you have to realize, this is your difficult children problem/issue, not yours. That sounds really simple, but it's not that easy. He is an adult, responsible for his behavior (regardless of drugs/alcohol), and should be made to feel the consequences of poor decisions/behavior/choices. Eliza is right, as an adult you can't force difficult child to do anything. The only thing you have control over is what you will and will not do, what behavior of his you will and will not tolerate. So it's usually a good idea to sit down and think about and write up those boundaries. It makes it easier if you can think of situations that might arise beforehand and have an idea of how you'll handle it. When someone becomes an addict, it literally takes over their life and becomes the center of their universe. From that point on, nothing else matters except the drug, acquiring the drug. It really really stinks, but that is how it works. You can offer rehab, but until it's his idea, odds are it's going to be wasted money. I believe somewhere here the ways to help to detach are archived, so maybe one of the mods can direct you to it. I'm glad you found us. But you might also look into a counselor for yourself as well, someone in person to talk to can be a huge help for many parents. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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