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<blockquote data-quote="myeverything04" data-source="post: 613764" data-attributes="member: 13522"><p>I"m not sure where to even start with history of my daughter <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>Here is the history:</p><p> I knew from the time she was very little that she was a bright child but was always behind when compared to other children her age. She was a 33 week old premie so I expected her to be delayed with things like crawling, walking, talking, etc, but figured she would eventually catch up to the other children. At 4 years of age she still wasn't potty trained and couldn't sit still for anything, not even while eating. To make a long story short, her pediatrician told me to wait until Kindergarden and see how she is then. Once she hit Kindergarden the pediatrician said wait until she is in 1st grade. Finally in 1st grade I had what the pediatrician considered enough "evidence" to recommend her to be tested for ADHD/ADD. She was diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia and a mood disorder (not specified) in the summer of 2010. Her biggest issue was focusing at school and keeping her busy with something for more than 5 minutes at home. Because her father and I seperated when she was 9 months old, it was just her and I living together until my husband (then boyfriend) moved in with us when she was 5 so I have to admit that she was 100% the center of attention from birth to about 5. Anywho, we went 1 year without medication and tried other things to manage the ADHD and her emotional breakdowns but after a year of little sucess we tried 2 different kinds of medication. Neither lasted as she lost a significant amount of weight with each, wouldn't sleep at night, and was a monster when coming down off the medication in the late afternoon. To top it all off, I diconnected from my best friend (who's daughter was of course my daughters best friend) due to a number of issues she was having and I didn't feel she was a good influence for my family and my daughter went into a world of hurt. I had meet this lady in the NICU when both our children were premies so our girls grew up together and saw each other almost everyday. We all went on vacations together, had sleepovers when the girls were only 2 and were like sisters. It was then that my daughter told me that this 'friend' of mine had told my daughter that I was not her real mother, but that she was. I immediately enrolled my child in counseling as she had thought for so many years that this other woman was her mom and I had just adopted her. We still, 3 years later, battle the issue of my daughter not being able to see her 'best friend' because her mom made bad choices. It also seems as though my daughter hasn't been able to make any other close friends. There are no kids in our neighborhood and although I have tried to enroll her in extra activities (soccer, art class, karate, swimming, etc), she doesn't like any of them. We continued counseling for 1.5 years until it seemed my daughter had understood that this 'friend' of mine really had a lot of her own problems and that even though it's not her daughters fault, my daughter can't be around their family. It was also discovered in counseling that my child has a little PTSD from a horrible car accident we were in when she was 2 1/2. She still can't sleep alone (I have to lay with her to get her to fall asleep) and is still bothered by sirens and ambulances.</p><p></p><p>So that brings me to now. My child is so kind hearted and loves animals of all kinds. It breaks my heart to see her so anxious and upset all the time. I haven't been able to pin point anything that has changed over the past few months other than she found out Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny aren't real. That was a big blow to her and she has even said she doesn't want to celebrate Christmas this year. She was very close with her tooth fairy as she wrote her letters, made her gifts, even asked for a picture (which I printed off Google and said it was her!). So I think she feels as though all the magic of being a child is gone. I just feel like I'm back to square one again, trying to explain all over that I am your mom and I love you and will keep you safe. But she is growing up and also needs to be able to sooth herself. </p><p></p><p>Hope this helps and thank you for replying!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="myeverything04, post: 613764, member: 13522"] I"m not sure where to even start with history of my daughter :) Here is the history: I knew from the time she was very little that she was a bright child but was always behind when compared to other children her age. She was a 33 week old premie so I expected her to be delayed with things like crawling, walking, talking, etc, but figured she would eventually catch up to the other children. At 4 years of age she still wasn't potty trained and couldn't sit still for anything, not even while eating. To make a long story short, her pediatrician told me to wait until Kindergarden and see how she is then. Once she hit Kindergarden the pediatrician said wait until she is in 1st grade. Finally in 1st grade I had what the pediatrician considered enough "evidence" to recommend her to be tested for ADHD/ADD. She was diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia and a mood disorder (not specified) in the summer of 2010. Her biggest issue was focusing at school and keeping her busy with something for more than 5 minutes at home. Because her father and I seperated when she was 9 months old, it was just her and I living together until my husband (then boyfriend) moved in with us when she was 5 so I have to admit that she was 100% the center of attention from birth to about 5. Anywho, we went 1 year without medication and tried other things to manage the ADHD and her emotional breakdowns but after a year of little sucess we tried 2 different kinds of medication. Neither lasted as she lost a significant amount of weight with each, wouldn't sleep at night, and was a monster when coming down off the medication in the late afternoon. To top it all off, I diconnected from my best friend (who's daughter was of course my daughters best friend) due to a number of issues she was having and I didn't feel she was a good influence for my family and my daughter went into a world of hurt. I had meet this lady in the NICU when both our children were premies so our girls grew up together and saw each other almost everyday. We all went on vacations together, had sleepovers when the girls were only 2 and were like sisters. It was then that my daughter told me that this 'friend' of mine had told my daughter that I was not her real mother, but that she was. I immediately enrolled my child in counseling as she had thought for so many years that this other woman was her mom and I had just adopted her. We still, 3 years later, battle the issue of my daughter not being able to see her 'best friend' because her mom made bad choices. It also seems as though my daughter hasn't been able to make any other close friends. There are no kids in our neighborhood and although I have tried to enroll her in extra activities (soccer, art class, karate, swimming, etc), she doesn't like any of them. We continued counseling for 1.5 years until it seemed my daughter had understood that this 'friend' of mine really had a lot of her own problems and that even though it's not her daughters fault, my daughter can't be around their family. It was also discovered in counseling that my child has a little PTSD from a horrible car accident we were in when she was 2 1/2. She still can't sleep alone (I have to lay with her to get her to fall asleep) and is still bothered by sirens and ambulances. So that brings me to now. My child is so kind hearted and loves animals of all kinds. It breaks my heart to see her so anxious and upset all the time. I haven't been able to pin point anything that has changed over the past few months other than she found out Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny aren't real. That was a big blow to her and she has even said she doesn't want to celebrate Christmas this year. She was very close with her tooth fairy as she wrote her letters, made her gifts, even asked for a picture (which I printed off Google and said it was her!). So I think she feels as though all the magic of being a child is gone. I just feel like I'm back to square one again, trying to explain all over that I am your mom and I love you and will keep you safe. But she is growing up and also needs to be able to sooth herself. Hope this helps and thank you for replying! [/QUOTE]
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