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<blockquote data-quote="BigMamma3" data-source="post: 236114" data-attributes="member: 6663"><p>Just after Thanksgiving both of my difficult child's had several occasions when they wet their pants. My youngest even wet the bed a couple times. I also discovered weeks after the fact she'd used my antique wood potty chair (from my childhood) that she uses for her babydolls to relieve herself during the night. </p><p> </p><p>These incidents occurred on the heals of several weeks of stealing and misbehavior from both difficult child's that I have begun to notice occur each Fall. Therapist and I have discussed possible "Anniversary reactions" to past trauma. Upon investigation, I discovered quite a few traumatic incidents occuring in the past during the Fall for them.</p><p> </p><p>I try not to make a big deal about these "accidents". My sister was traumatized by "creative punishment" as a child for her bedwetting problems which contributed to a lifetime of incontinence and emotional problems. I always try to keep it simple, clear and non-punitive. We went through a couple weeks of sporadic accidents and then nothing since.</p><p> </p><p>Here are my tips...</p><p> </p><p>1. Try and figure out the underlying problem without causing the child any distress. Some possible factors I have encountered:</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Over-excited/distracted and forgets (holidays, parties, etc.)</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Drinking more than usual or drinking late in day</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Pants/belt are difficult to undo</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Too scared to get up and use it (bedwetting)</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Scared to use the toilet (my youngest daughter's toilet has a tendancy to overflow). She also will refuse a dirty public toilet.</li> </ul><p>2. Take precautions:</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Pack extra clothes in backpack. I put them in a large ziploc that can be used to store the wet clothes as well.</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Place a plastic cover over the mattress. ($9.99 at Target)</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Limit use of belts. Practice with child to make sure they can undo it quickly.</li> </ul><p>3. Review the expectations:</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Go when you need to go</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Report any issues (such as pain or irritation)</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">Tell Mommy right away if you have an accident</li> </ul><p>4. Leave it alone! I NEVER punish for wetting pants. </p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Just my two cents...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BigMamma3, post: 236114, member: 6663"] Just after Thanksgiving both of my difficult child's had several occasions when they wet their pants. My youngest even wet the bed a couple times. I also discovered weeks after the fact she'd used my antique wood potty chair (from my childhood) that she uses for her babydolls to relieve herself during the night. These incidents occurred on the heals of several weeks of stealing and misbehavior from both difficult child's that I have begun to notice occur each Fall. Therapist and I have discussed possible "Anniversary reactions" to past trauma. Upon investigation, I discovered quite a few traumatic incidents occuring in the past during the Fall for them. I try not to make a big deal about these "accidents". My sister was traumatized by "creative punishment" as a child for her bedwetting problems which contributed to a lifetime of incontinence and emotional problems. I always try to keep it simple, clear and non-punitive. We went through a couple weeks of sporadic accidents and then nothing since. Here are my tips... 1. Try and figure out the underlying problem without causing the child any distress. Some possible factors I have encountered: [LIST] [*]Over-excited/distracted and forgets (holidays, parties, etc.) [*]Drinking more than usual or drinking late in day [*]Pants/belt are difficult to undo [*]Too scared to get up and use it (bedwetting) [*]Scared to use the toilet (my youngest daughter's toilet has a tendancy to overflow). She also will refuse a dirty public toilet. [/LIST]2. Take precautions: [LIST] [*]Pack extra clothes in backpack. I put them in a large ziploc that can be used to store the wet clothes as well. [*]Place a plastic cover over the mattress. ($9.99 at Target) [*]Limit use of belts. Practice with child to make sure they can undo it quickly. [/LIST]3. Review the expectations: [LIST] [*]Go when you need to go [*]Report any issues (such as pain or irritation) [*]Tell Mommy right away if you have an accident [/LIST]4. Leave it alone! I NEVER punish for wetting pants. Just my two cents... [/QUOTE]
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