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<blockquote data-quote="SeaGenieTx" data-source="post: 667798" data-attributes="member: 18773"><p>So sorry for what you have endured. You, me and others on here are NOT failures as parents. I know I was a wonderful mother to my son and so do you. These kids, I don't know what's wrong with them. They just don't get it.</p><p></p><p>I kicked my son out, let him back in, kicked him out, let him back and finally kicked him out and kept him out. You can not trust them, period. I could have saved myself two years of grief if I saw thru my sons lies and manipulations. I never dreamed he'd treat me the way he's treated me. I was too nice and enabled him till I snapped out of it and got sick of worrying about my home being used as a pot smoking den while I was at work.</p><p></p><p>Locks changed - holding his stuff ransom. He has to make pre-planned arrangements to pick up his stuff (give me his order, I bag it up, set it outside, he comes and get its). He is not allowed in my house unless I see proof of him working full-time or going to school full-time. At age 23, with no steady job history or college, a rap sheet that includes 3 arrests with jail time and a recent run in with the law where he paid a hefty fine and got a deferred disposition (whateve that it - have yet to figure it out)....my son is failing at life. He is a very good looking boy with a outgoing personality - his looks help him get what he wants (girls, friends) and he has learned how to manipulate people (he could be a great used car salesman - there's a thought!).</p><p></p><p>I am with you - the change happened to my son too when he started smoking pot and hanging out with trashy thugs. Some of his friends would come over and wouldn't look me in the eye to say hello. I told my son ANYONE who can't look an adult in the eye and say hello - is shady. </p><p></p><p>My son's girlfriend was a heroin user too. Came from a wealthy family, was beautiful and super smart. Her dad is a surgeon and her mom a socialite. This girl was given money, cars, clothes, everything she could want. She got in to Rice University to study and major in biochemistry. Was in college for three months, all excited and meeting new people... met someone who offered her heroin, first time she tried it she overdosed (went to sleep and didn't wake up). Such a waste of a beautiful, intelligent, talented young lady who had everything going for her. Blows my mind how kids these days do not appreciate anything.</p><p></p><p>You are on the right track to stay detached. It's the only way I can survive this nightmare. I've detached, decided it's my time in life to do what I want, I just pray my son doesn't end up dead and try to stay positive. Work is therapeutic because at work my mind stays busy.</p><p></p><p>Changed locks for the last time because my son abused his priviledge of living in my home. He disrespected me by bringing drugs in when I told him not to, he invited his druggie friends over during the day while I was at work, after I asked him not to, he refused to pay me $100 rent each month but could easily spend hundreds on drugs and partying. It hurt my feelings he could care less about helping his mother but it's reality. My son is a selfish pot smoking punk. </p><p></p><p>June Cleaver has become Mommie Dearest. He has no clue how pissed off I am and what's in store for him. I'm no longer the mother he took advantage of - I'm out to make sure he knows I mean business this time. I'm so angry at him and disappointed - he is going to feel my wrath for a long time. I'm on a mission to kick his *** into next year. I'm done with having a punk for a son.</p><p></p><p>I love him more than life but he has betrayed me and my trust. I can not let him abuse me anymore. </p><p></p><p>I hope you stay positive and strong with your son. I can totally relate to your story.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeaGenieTx, post: 667798, member: 18773"] So sorry for what you have endured. You, me and others on here are NOT failures as parents. I know I was a wonderful mother to my son and so do you. These kids, I don't know what's wrong with them. They just don't get it. I kicked my son out, let him back in, kicked him out, let him back and finally kicked him out and kept him out. You can not trust them, period. I could have saved myself two years of grief if I saw thru my sons lies and manipulations. I never dreamed he'd treat me the way he's treated me. I was too nice and enabled him till I snapped out of it and got sick of worrying about my home being used as a pot smoking den while I was at work. Locks changed - holding his stuff ransom. He has to make pre-planned arrangements to pick up his stuff (give me his order, I bag it up, set it outside, he comes and get its). He is not allowed in my house unless I see proof of him working full-time or going to school full-time. At age 23, with no steady job history or college, a rap sheet that includes 3 arrests with jail time and a recent run in with the law where he paid a hefty fine and got a deferred disposition (whateve that it - have yet to figure it out)....my son is failing at life. He is a very good looking boy with a outgoing personality - his looks help him get what he wants (girls, friends) and he has learned how to manipulate people (he could be a great used car salesman - there's a thought!). I am with you - the change happened to my son too when he started smoking pot and hanging out with trashy thugs. Some of his friends would come over and wouldn't look me in the eye to say hello. I told my son ANYONE who can't look an adult in the eye and say hello - is shady. My son's girlfriend was a heroin user too. Came from a wealthy family, was beautiful and super smart. Her dad is a surgeon and her mom a socialite. This girl was given money, cars, clothes, everything she could want. She got in to Rice University to study and major in biochemistry. Was in college for three months, all excited and meeting new people... met someone who offered her heroin, first time she tried it she overdosed (went to sleep and didn't wake up). Such a waste of a beautiful, intelligent, talented young lady who had everything going for her. Blows my mind how kids these days do not appreciate anything. You are on the right track to stay detached. It's the only way I can survive this nightmare. I've detached, decided it's my time in life to do what I want, I just pray my son doesn't end up dead and try to stay positive. Work is therapeutic because at work my mind stays busy. Changed locks for the last time because my son abused his priviledge of living in my home. He disrespected me by bringing drugs in when I told him not to, he invited his druggie friends over during the day while I was at work, after I asked him not to, he refused to pay me $100 rent each month but could easily spend hundreds on drugs and partying. It hurt my feelings he could care less about helping his mother but it's reality. My son is a selfish pot smoking punk. June Cleaver has become Mommie Dearest. He has no clue how pissed off I am and what's in store for him. I'm no longer the mother he took advantage of - I'm out to make sure he knows I mean business this time. I'm so angry at him and disappointed - he is going to feel my wrath for a long time. I'm on a mission to kick his *** into next year. I'm done with having a punk for a son. I love him more than life but he has betrayed me and my trust. I can not let him abuse me anymore. I hope you stay positive and strong with your son. I can totally relate to your story. [/QUOTE]
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