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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 452842" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>My oldest daughter was sexually attacked in the school playground when she was 5 years old. Her attacker was 7 years old. The damage was done more by the violence and control exerted over her, I believe. The boy had held her down, removed her knickers and told her he was going to have sex with her, and sex hurts. He also said that if she told, he would send his father around to run over her mother (me) with his lawnmower. Really sick. We tried to get her help but with hindsight, we got the wrong sort of help and it was way too late - she didn't tell us for two years.</p><p></p><p>So attacks can come from anywhere and for all sorts of reasons. They're not always violent - in some ways, when the attack is violent, it is easier to deal with emotionally because the child feels less complicit. The seduction and mind games that can come with a less violent abuse can leave a lot of nasty confusions in a child's mind. However, easy child was a mess for a long time, even though there was no way she could blame herself for what happened to her. The fear did the damage.</p><p></p><p>And how do you find out? Not easily. Sorry. Perhaps the best you can do is equip your child with the skills to know what is acceptable, what is not and that it is imperative to tell someone in order to make it stop and ensure the perpetrator cannot do it again to her or anyone else.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 452842, member: 1991"] My oldest daughter was sexually attacked in the school playground when she was 5 years old. Her attacker was 7 years old. The damage was done more by the violence and control exerted over her, I believe. The boy had held her down, removed her knickers and told her he was going to have sex with her, and sex hurts. He also said that if she told, he would send his father around to run over her mother (me) with his lawnmower. Really sick. We tried to get her help but with hindsight, we got the wrong sort of help and it was way too late - she didn't tell us for two years. So attacks can come from anywhere and for all sorts of reasons. They're not always violent - in some ways, when the attack is violent, it is easier to deal with emotionally because the child feels less complicit. The seduction and mind games that can come with a less violent abuse can leave a lot of nasty confusions in a child's mind. However, easy child was a mess for a long time, even though there was no way she could blame herself for what happened to her. The fear did the damage. And how do you find out? Not easily. Sorry. Perhaps the best you can do is equip your child with the skills to know what is acceptable, what is not and that it is imperative to tell someone in order to make it stop and ensure the perpetrator cannot do it again to her or anyone else. Marg [/QUOTE]
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