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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 452882" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>If you do opt to make an appointment. with a child sexual abuse psychologist I think you can pretty easily avoid the problems that you had with your Mom sending you to therapy. How? By being honest about why you have made the appointment.</p><p>Tell her that you know being a kid is complicated. Tell her that being a Mom is also complicated. Sometimes people, no matter how old they are, worry that they are not doing the very best job possible. When that happen the best thing to do is make sure that a helper is available. Lately you want to make sure you are being the best Mom possible and have found a "lady" or "man" who can be a helper. Then tell her you have made <strong>one </strong>appointment with someone who is qualified to make sure everything is ok. Tell her, if she begins to resist, that you really appreciate her cooperation because you need to feel at peace with your parenting because you love her so much. Since she is not a defiant child...I'm betting she'll see "okay we can go together for one meeting". </p><p></p><p>I'm betting she will willingly go (perhaps add in a perk like "we'll have lunch together" or some other fun thing as a package deal. The psychologists office is not going to have a sign that says "sexual abuse specialist" or anything identifying. Chances are the doctor will talk to you a few minutes and then meet with her. IF your daughter feels negatively after the meeting, once again all you have to do is tell the truth. He/She has an excellent reputation and I hoped we would both feel better after the visit. Sorry 'bout that...but "we" tried...now, where shall we go eat lunch.</p><p></p><p>Most of parenting, I believe, is gut based. on the other hand alot of parenting is role playing. You anticipate what the objections or reactions might be and are prepared with how you will react. It may go great and totally ease your mind. Maybe it won't be so great. Oh, well, that's part of life. Since there is no book published (lol, I don't think so anyway) on how to be the perfect parenting under all circumstances, you just have to trust that decisions based on love are alot better than ignoring concerns. No matter what your choice all the CD family is in your corner and ready to offer as much support as possible. Hugs. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 452882, member: 35"] If you do opt to make an appointment. with a child sexual abuse psychologist I think you can pretty easily avoid the problems that you had with your Mom sending you to therapy. How? By being honest about why you have made the appointment. Tell her that you know being a kid is complicated. Tell her that being a Mom is also complicated. Sometimes people, no matter how old they are, worry that they are not doing the very best job possible. When that happen the best thing to do is make sure that a helper is available. Lately you want to make sure you are being the best Mom possible and have found a "lady" or "man" who can be a helper. Then tell her you have made [B]one [/B]appointment with someone who is qualified to make sure everything is ok. Tell her, if she begins to resist, that you really appreciate her cooperation because you need to feel at peace with your parenting because you love her so much. Since she is not a defiant child...I'm betting she'll see "okay we can go together for one meeting". I'm betting she will willingly go (perhaps add in a perk like "we'll have lunch together" or some other fun thing as a package deal. The psychologists office is not going to have a sign that says "sexual abuse specialist" or anything identifying. Chances are the doctor will talk to you a few minutes and then meet with her. IF your daughter feels negatively after the meeting, once again all you have to do is tell the truth. He/She has an excellent reputation and I hoped we would both feel better after the visit. Sorry 'bout that...but "we" tried...now, where shall we go eat lunch. Most of parenting, I believe, is gut based. on the other hand alot of parenting is role playing. You anticipate what the objections or reactions might be and are prepared with how you will react. It may go great and totally ease your mind. Maybe it won't be so great. Oh, well, that's part of life. Since there is no book published (lol, I don't think so anyway) on how to be the perfect parenting under all circumstances, you just have to trust that decisions based on love are alot better than ignoring concerns. No matter what your choice all the CD family is in your corner and ready to offer as much support as possible. Hugs. DDD [/QUOTE]
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