I'm shocked by what I'm reading here. I'm sooooo grateful we're not dealing with substance issues. I truly thought this couldn't get much worse. Thanks for the reality. I DO feel better. But we are at the end of a long rope on ODD issues with our adopted (at 3) daughter. Sexual, honesty, responsibility, honor, schoolwork, etc. But maybe I should just be grateful that we're not yet dealing with the nightmarish stories you're all suffering with. Does anyone know a better site that I should be on? And I'd like to send my profoundist sympathies for your suffering. Maybe I'll just go cry now.