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14 yr old daughter/aunt mess but no subs. abuse
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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 371572" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Hi Kirsten and welcome. I moved your post over to the general forum since there's no substance abuse going on and the general forum has more traffic.</p><p></p><p>I'm probably quite naive but in my rose-colored world, your sister has zero say on where your daughter lives. She doesn't have custody nor any rights. Period. End of that part of the problem.</p><p></p><p>Ashley is 14 and also has no say in terms of living with- sister. Time to come home, against her will or not. I'm old and pretty hardened at this stage of the game - I wouldn't take it personally that she wants to live with- sis. The grass is always greener, you know? I can't tell you how many times I've "ruined" one or another of my kids' lives. Too bad, so sad. I'm the parent. My job is #1 to make sure you're safe and well cared for, #2 make sure you have the necessities of life, including a good education, #3 do my best to raise you to be a responsible adult, and last *and* least provide the goodies as I'm able.</p><p></p><p>I know absolutely nothing about custody issues... but I wonder if a 14-year-old has the right to provide input into custody issues. I don't know if it varies by state, or by age. Probably something you want to talk with- atty about, especially if you are able to get her back from Seattle. I would anticipate she'd be pretty ticked off - might play into dad's hands? </p><p></p><p>So sorry you're getting this from 2 different sides right now. Teenagers can be such challenging kids, all that sense of entitlement and being "right". Hope you're at the very least able to get sis to cooperate in getting her back home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 371572, member: 8"] Hi Kirsten and welcome. I moved your post over to the general forum since there's no substance abuse going on and the general forum has more traffic. I'm probably quite naive but in my rose-colored world, your sister has zero say on where your daughter lives. She doesn't have custody nor any rights. Period. End of that part of the problem. Ashley is 14 and also has no say in terms of living with- sister. Time to come home, against her will or not. I'm old and pretty hardened at this stage of the game - I wouldn't take it personally that she wants to live with- sis. The grass is always greener, you know? I can't tell you how many times I've "ruined" one or another of my kids' lives. Too bad, so sad. I'm the parent. My job is #1 to make sure you're safe and well cared for, #2 make sure you have the necessities of life, including a good education, #3 do my best to raise you to be a responsible adult, and last *and* least provide the goodies as I'm able. I know absolutely nothing about custody issues... but I wonder if a 14-year-old has the right to provide input into custody issues. I don't know if it varies by state, or by age. Probably something you want to talk with- atty about, especially if you are able to get her back from Seattle. I would anticipate she'd be pretty ticked off - might play into dad's hands? So sorry you're getting this from 2 different sides right now. Teenagers can be such challenging kids, all that sense of entitlement and being "right". Hope you're at the very least able to get sis to cooperate in getting her back home. [/QUOTE]
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