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15 year old daughter now sexually active and I don't know how to handle this!
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 464498" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm with Susie. What can you do if your daughter wants to have sex? Seclude her from the world?</p><p></p><p>If this were my daughter (and I do have a fifteen year old daughter), I would get her on birth control because getting pregnant would be devastating at her age. I hate to say it, but kids are having sex at twelve these days...it's all over...there is little you can do if she wants to be sexually active other than teach her the best way not to get STDs and make sure she does not conceive. I don't think that punishing will help...it will probably bond the two of them even more or make her rebellious. Once it is done, it's done.</p><p></p><p>I'm one of those wives who tells my husband everything about the kids and it is up to him how to deal with things (he's pretty good). If you like, go to a family counselor with him and your daughter and have it told to him with a professional there to blunt his reaction and to put it into perspective. </p><p></p><p>Although I'm sorry you are going through this, you are hardly alone. in my opinion make the best of it by making sure nothing further happens as a result of this. And (this is just MY opinion) I wouldn't make her feel like a bad person either. I know that when my best friend was pregnant her father called her every horrible name in the book...I was there and I cringed. I wouldn't handle sexual activity that way. I would take a pragmatic approach so that at least the communication would still be there. Maybe one day she will decide to turn back the clock and not have sex again until she is, say, 21. You need to her a voice of reason...somebody she can talk to without making her feel like she is a bad girl. </p><p></p><p>This is all just my opinion and how I would handle it. Certainly I'd be disappointed, but things could be worse. She could be on drugs (I think this is WAY worse) or, God forbid, have a terrible illness...sex is just something she started a bit earlier than some girls and, in spite of what she says, she is likely a bit confused about her feelings about having had it...and she needs you more than ever. She needs her dad too, but I know how dad's can get over issues like this.</p><p></p><p>Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 464498, member: 1550"] I'm with Susie. What can you do if your daughter wants to have sex? Seclude her from the world? If this were my daughter (and I do have a fifteen year old daughter), I would get her on birth control because getting pregnant would be devastating at her age. I hate to say it, but kids are having sex at twelve these days...it's all over...there is little you can do if she wants to be sexually active other than teach her the best way not to get STDs and make sure she does not conceive. I don't think that punishing will help...it will probably bond the two of them even more or make her rebellious. Once it is done, it's done. I'm one of those wives who tells my husband everything about the kids and it is up to him how to deal with things (he's pretty good). If you like, go to a family counselor with him and your daughter and have it told to him with a professional there to blunt his reaction and to put it into perspective. Although I'm sorry you are going through this, you are hardly alone. in my opinion make the best of it by making sure nothing further happens as a result of this. And (this is just MY opinion) I wouldn't make her feel like a bad person either. I know that when my best friend was pregnant her father called her every horrible name in the book...I was there and I cringed. I wouldn't handle sexual activity that way. I would take a pragmatic approach so that at least the communication would still be there. Maybe one day she will decide to turn back the clock and not have sex again until she is, say, 21. You need to her a voice of reason...somebody she can talk to without making her feel like she is a bad girl. This is all just my opinion and how I would handle it. Certainly I'd be disappointed, but things could be worse. She could be on drugs (I think this is WAY worse) or, God forbid, have a terrible illness...sex is just something she started a bit earlier than some girls and, in spite of what she says, she is likely a bit confused about her feelings about having had it...and she needs you more than ever. She needs her dad too, but I know how dad's can get over issues like this. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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