When is it too soon to kick them out? Do I have to wait till he is 18? My 16 1/6 year old son has that I can do what I want attitude. He is verbally abusive to me and I can't take it anymore. I want to help, but I don't think I am always helping if I don't allow him to do it on his own. Right now he is with his grandparents. The only problem is that they don't have rules and since he has been there he has been arrested for shoplifting. (He has never stole anything) He runs wild there. I have been researching places that might be able to help him. Resident programs or schools cost way too much, they would leaves us penniless, and do they help? Our insurance will cover some help at the mental hospital. Should I take him there first and try to get him help? OR just leave him with his grandparents and let him learn from his mistakes?