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17 yr old son, defiant and using
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 637978" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>I would advise you to consider the court designated worker. Even though he is compliant today you have no idea how long that will last. </p><p></p><p>The CDW doesn't really put him in the system unless he screws up. They generally write up a contract for him to follow and the parent agrees to it. They give them set guidelines and the consequences should he mess up. The parent turns the kid in if he breaks the rules and the CDW institutes a punishment. From what I was told they start off mild and can increase as far as they have to. Basically it gives the kid the structure, the parent the support, and the legal system a chance to rehab a kid gently before crimes are committed (or they get caught). </p><p></p><p>It sounds harsh but your difficult child will manipulate you in ways he won't be able to with the CDW. Plus it gives you support. All those questions you are asking us can be addressed by the CDW. It takes away the guess work. They can do the dirty work if needed and keep you and difficult child out of it. They can take the text/ info and speak to the parents of the other kid who sold the drugs. </p><p></p><p>I actually signed my difficult child up for the program the day before she moved out to live elsewhere. I needed support and I wasn't scaring her. She knew she could run to my parents at any time. That's what she did and it really screwed up the family. I wish now I hadn't let her go and had made the CDW help us out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 637978, member: 15473"] I would advise you to consider the court designated worker. Even though he is compliant today you have no idea how long that will last. The CDW doesn't really put him in the system unless he screws up. They generally write up a contract for him to follow and the parent agrees to it. They give them set guidelines and the consequences should he mess up. The parent turns the kid in if he breaks the rules and the CDW institutes a punishment. From what I was told they start off mild and can increase as far as they have to. Basically it gives the kid the structure, the parent the support, and the legal system a chance to rehab a kid gently before crimes are committed (or they get caught). It sounds harsh but your difficult child will manipulate you in ways he won't be able to with the CDW. Plus it gives you support. All those questions you are asking us can be addressed by the CDW. It takes away the guess work. They can do the dirty work if needed and keep you and difficult child out of it. They can take the text/ info and speak to the parents of the other kid who sold the drugs. I actually signed my difficult child up for the program the day before she moved out to live elsewhere. I needed support and I wasn't scaring her. She knew she could run to my parents at any time. That's what she did and it really screwed up the family. I wish now I hadn't let her go and had made the CDW help us out. [/QUOTE]
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