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17 yr old son hanging out with members of a gang and doing drugs
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 675259" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, remember, psychiatrists can be wrong. But one thing is true. If your son doesn't want to change, he won't. Nobody can make him change. In fact, we can't change anybody in the world except ourselves, not even our beloved children. But we can let them know we are here if they WANT to change. Then it's up to them. It's a scary thing to face, but there is nobody we can change but us. And we can change our reaction to our troubled loved ones. We do not have to enable them or go down their path or put up with abusive conversations about how their behavior is our own faults, which is a lie they like to use to get us to give them money (for drugs). We can see them as often or as little as we like and we can choose to hang up on or delete abusive calls and texts. It also helps, I think, not to check their Facebook. They use that for abuse too. Yes, our kids CAN and often DO abuse us when they are on drugs. They like to make us think we caused it. The only way we caused it is if we forced them to use drugs at gunpoint. We did NOT teach them to use drugs. It is not on us; it's on them.</p><p></p><p>Focus on positive people and yourself. It helps! It does NOT help to fall apart because they are.</p><p></p><p>Sending extra hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 675259, member: 1550"] Well, remember, psychiatrists can be wrong. But one thing is true. If your son doesn't want to change, he won't. Nobody can make him change. In fact, we can't change anybody in the world except ourselves, not even our beloved children. But we can let them know we are here if they WANT to change. Then it's up to them. It's a scary thing to face, but there is nobody we can change but us. And we can change our reaction to our troubled loved ones. We do not have to enable them or go down their path or put up with abusive conversations about how their behavior is our own faults, which is a lie they like to use to get us to give them money (for drugs). We can see them as often or as little as we like and we can choose to hang up on or delete abusive calls and texts. It also helps, I think, not to check their Facebook. They use that for abuse too. Yes, our kids CAN and often DO abuse us when they are on drugs. They like to make us think we caused it. The only way we caused it is if we forced them to use drugs at gunpoint. We did NOT teach them to use drugs. It is not on us; it's on them. Focus on positive people and yourself. It helps! It does NOT help to fall apart because they are. Sending extra hugs. [/QUOTE]
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