Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
17 yr old son hanging out with members of a gang and doing drugs
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675386" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I had not heard of this. It sounds great. There must be supervision if it targets troubled kids.</p><p></p><p>Everything is a trade off. If you push him to something he has no enthusiasm for, he will balk and do anything to get out of it. If he goes somewhere where he is motivated there is the possibility he may stay motivated. </p><p></p><p>He was succeeding at the job, it sounds like. You know he can do it. </p><p></p><p>You have to accept that 95 percent of this has to do with him. You know that saying. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. </p><p></p><p>You are doing this for you, mainly. So that you will feel you have done whatever it is in your power to give him the means to make good choices. A start. You cannot choose for him. </p><p></p><p>All of us have come to that understanding or we will. </p><p></p><p>I am hopeful for him. But it is when he wants, if he wants. He has to learn to choose well for himself. For him to learn he has to be free to do so, and to suffer the consequences if he chooses poorly. I wish it were different. </p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675386, member: 18958"] I had not heard of this. It sounds great. There must be supervision if it targets troubled kids. Everything is a trade off. If you push him to something he has no enthusiasm for, he will balk and do anything to get out of it. If he goes somewhere where he is motivated there is the possibility he may stay motivated. He was succeeding at the job, it sounds like. You know he can do it. You have to accept that 95 percent of this has to do with him. You know that saying. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. You are doing this for you, mainly. So that you will feel you have done whatever it is in your power to give him the means to make good choices. A start. You cannot choose for him. All of us have come to that understanding or we will. I am hopeful for him. But it is when he wants, if he wants. He has to learn to choose well for himself. For him to learn he has to be free to do so, and to suffer the consequences if he chooses poorly. I wish it were different. COPA [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
17 yr old son hanging out with members of a gang and doing drugs
Top