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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 367364" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I agree with Susie also. I think it's definitely past due time for you to detach and let him fail on his own without any assistance from you. Focus on you - YOU need the attention.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I have to say, I think his overall attitude has more to do with laziness and general disrespect that seems to be so prevalent in young men his age, moreso than any type of mental disorder - but that's just my opinion, I know it may differ from others here. I think he needs a reality check in the form of you taking away anything material above and beyond the basics beginning with his car. Immediately, take it off your insurance and disable it, as Susie said. Then get in his room and remove anything that you have provided for him that is considered a luxury or privilege. He needs to work for what he wants. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Also, it will likely get worse before it gets better because he will be angry when these changes take place, but you can remind him that he IS becoming a young adult and needs to be self supporting and respectful of you and your home. He may choose to move out and go stay with friends/family - think of how peaceful your home and life will become. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Sending you many hugs and strength to help you get through this...the less you do for him, the more he needs to do for himself, which in turn will help him grow as a young man and *hopefully* become a responsible adult. </span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I personally think we adore them too much when they are little - lol - and it turns them into monsters when they're not so little and adorable anymore! Hang in there and I hope you can keep the focus on your own personal well being.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 367364, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I agree with Susie also. I think it's definitely past due time for you to detach and let him fail on his own without any assistance from you. Focus on you - YOU need the attention.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I have to say, I think his overall attitude has more to do with laziness and general disrespect that seems to be so prevalent in young men his age, moreso than any type of mental disorder - but that's just my opinion, I know it may differ from others here. I think he needs a reality check in the form of you taking away anything material above and beyond the basics beginning with his car. Immediately, take it off your insurance and disable it, as Susie said. Then get in his room and remove anything that you have provided for him that is considered a luxury or privilege. He needs to work for what he wants. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Also, it will likely get worse before it gets better because he will be angry when these changes take place, but you can remind him that he IS becoming a young adult and needs to be self supporting and respectful of you and your home. He may choose to move out and go stay with friends/family - think of how peaceful your home and life will become. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Sending you many hugs and strength to help you get through this...the less you do for him, the more he needs to do for himself, which in turn will help him grow as a young man and *hopefully* become a responsible adult. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I personally think we adore them too much when they are little - lol - and it turns them into monsters when they're not so little and adorable anymore! Hang in there and I hope you can keep the focus on your own personal well being.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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