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19 1/2 Year Old Struggling With Complex Developmental Challenges
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<blockquote data-quote="tbod" data-source="post: 687690" data-attributes="member: 20297"><p>This is good insight. Thinking my son has learned this behavior from a young age ...lots of rejection and getting picked on a lot in his earlier years due to his peculiarities. That's probably where this came from. Learned that if he can adopt a tough exterior, and appear scary that folks then he can garner a sense of power over those that actually believe in this bravado. He's very insecure. However, will say that if a kid his size or bigger calls him out on this "chip on his shoulder"...kyle will back down in a heart beat. Its mostly bravado that he has. Your comment wrt the interventions is spot on. in a perfect world...it would have been great if there was such a thing as a life coach way back when..as that might have been helpful. But thats not realistic and I certainly couldn't afford someone 24/7 to steer him back on track at every fork in the road. He is an only child and since I was a career military guy..theres never been any family around to lean on. So, its really only been friends of ours and peers that he's been around. Not many examples to follow (other than mom and dad)..and you're right..with his wiring..he's not going to learn much from negative reinforcement (punishment)...never has been able to. It just doesn't work. My fear like you stated in your note..is that since he has already encountered legal issues (although relatively minor at this point), that he's on a track to repeat minor offenses until something bigger happens...unless, something clicks with him...and the light finally goes on for him before too late.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tbod, post: 687690, member: 20297"] This is good insight. Thinking my son has learned this behavior from a young age ...lots of rejection and getting picked on a lot in his earlier years due to his peculiarities. That's probably where this came from. Learned that if he can adopt a tough exterior, and appear scary that folks then he can garner a sense of power over those that actually believe in this bravado. He's very insecure. However, will say that if a kid his size or bigger calls him out on this "chip on his shoulder"...kyle will back down in a heart beat. Its mostly bravado that he has. Your comment wrt the interventions is spot on. in a perfect world...it would have been great if there was such a thing as a life coach way back when..as that might have been helpful. But thats not realistic and I certainly couldn't afford someone 24/7 to steer him back on track at every fork in the road. He is an only child and since I was a career military guy..theres never been any family around to lean on. So, its really only been friends of ours and peers that he's been around. Not many examples to follow (other than mom and dad)..and you're right..with his wiring..he's not going to learn much from negative reinforcement (punishment)...never has been able to. It just doesn't work. My fear like you stated in your note..is that since he has already encountered legal issues (although relatively minor at this point), that he's on a track to repeat minor offenses until something bigger happens...unless, something clicks with him...and the light finally goes on for him before too late. [/QUOTE]
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