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19 year old kicked out for the 4th time....
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 452410" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I want to invite you to post your story on Parent Emeritus for parents of difficult young adults (18 and over). A lot of people here are dealing with much younger children. Some have had difficult child's who are older though. I did. </p><p></p><p>You have every right to want peace and quiet in your own home. I am guessing that your son is probably doing more drugs than just pot just as my daughter was (although she only confessed to pot at the time). If so, he is stealing to buy drugs from not-so-nice, even dangerous people. (I didn't think it was possible either, but my daughter did clean up her act and since then has told me the whole ugly story of her drug using life). Since he is using drugs, it is unlikely than any sort of evaluation will be accurate. My daughter was diagnosed with bipolar, which made me feel sorry for her, but now that she has been clean, she clearly is not bipolar. The drugs were causing her disrespect, meltdowns and stealing. We gave her several chances, but she blew them all so we made her leave. That was when s he changed her life, not before. There is no guarantees that this will make your child change his life, but at his age and knowing the rules I would not allow him to live in your home since he refuses to address his problem or behaviors. He will survive...they are resilient. They will find somewhere to stay. </p><p>I also recommend going to an Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meeting. I found them very helpful and compassionate, although they do advocate not using kid gloves on a drug/alcohol user. Your son did not suddenly become difficult for no reason and the most common reason an older teen suddenly changes is substance abuse. And the easier it is for him to abuse drugs/alcohol and still have a soft bed to sleep in, the less incentive he/she has to quit. </p><p>We were very hard on our daughter and I cried many tears and stayed up worrying many nights. She moved out of state and in with her brother, who laid down rules that were even tougher than mine, but, in her case, she was ready to quit and followed the rules. She told me that every time she tried to quit in Wisconsin, where we live, her "friends" would threaten her and taunt her until she started using drugs again. </p><p>Again, I urge you to post on Parent Emeritus as many of us have been through exactly what you are going through now.</p><p>Good luck and keep us posted!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 452410, member: 1550"] I want to invite you to post your story on Parent Emeritus for parents of difficult young adults (18 and over). A lot of people here are dealing with much younger children. Some have had difficult child's who are older though. I did. You have every right to want peace and quiet in your own home. I am guessing that your son is probably doing more drugs than just pot just as my daughter was (although she only confessed to pot at the time). If so, he is stealing to buy drugs from not-so-nice, even dangerous people. (I didn't think it was possible either, but my daughter did clean up her act and since then has told me the whole ugly story of her drug using life). Since he is using drugs, it is unlikely than any sort of evaluation will be accurate. My daughter was diagnosed with bipolar, which made me feel sorry for her, but now that she has been clean, she clearly is not bipolar. The drugs were causing her disrespect, meltdowns and stealing. We gave her several chances, but she blew them all so we made her leave. That was when s he changed her life, not before. There is no guarantees that this will make your child change his life, but at his age and knowing the rules I would not allow him to live in your home since he refuses to address his problem or behaviors. He will survive...they are resilient. They will find somewhere to stay. I also recommend going to an Al-Anon or Narc-Anon meeting. I found them very helpful and compassionate, although they do advocate not using kid gloves on a drug/alcohol user. Your son did not suddenly become difficult for no reason and the most common reason an older teen suddenly changes is substance abuse. And the easier it is for him to abuse drugs/alcohol and still have a soft bed to sleep in, the less incentive he/she has to quit. We were very hard on our daughter and I cried many tears and stayed up worrying many nights. She moved out of state and in with her brother, who laid down rules that were even tougher than mine, but, in her case, she was ready to quit and followed the rules. She told me that every time she tried to quit in Wisconsin, where we live, her "friends" would threaten her and taunt her until she started using drugs again. Again, I urge you to post on Parent Emeritus as many of us have been through exactly what you are going through now. Good luck and keep us posted! [/QUOTE]
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