Hi My name Is De. I have a 7 year old who has behavioral issues. He is a loving, caring, emotional, sensitive, SMART little boy. EVERYONE loves him. But he has been suspended from school twice in the past 2 weeks for hurting other kids. He refuses to acknowledge personal space. He tries to be funny most of the time but at times it is inappropriate. He isn't meaning to hurt kids, but when he is overly excited and/ or frustrated or not being heard he will have explosive tantrums. When he was 2 he witnessed abused towards me and his dad and while I was trying to fix the damage with counseling his dad was scaring it out of him, trying to suppress it. He spent a year with his dad and his dads family while I was in school and trying to join the military and instead of taking him out of school half the time as I lived in another state than his dad, we both agreed for he and his brother to spend the school year with his dad. Unbeknownst to me, My child was verbally abused by other family members. I KNOW my son has behavior issues due to these reasons. But now I have moved back to the same state and my children are with me. My son was doing great for a little bit with his outbursts, so I loosened up on the reigns a bit. He is angry. And he is angry at himself VERY often. He has been bullied at school and refuses to tell his teachers "Because he doesn't want his friends to get into trouble" so HE gets into trouble because he hurts the kids who are mean to him. I was a violent child. In my last foster home towards the end, after everything my foster parents decided to put me on a point system. And once I stopped rebelling against it, I realized that it was my own fault why I wasn't allowed to do literally ANYTHING. I had the control of everything, it was my choices. My son is a lot smarter than most 7 year olds. This point system worked for me. And I am hoping it works for him. I am basically needing other ideas. I have tried spankings, which it LITERALLY hurt me more than him and cant bring myself to spank my kids anymore. I have tried time outs, groundings, Being aggressive, being passive. I have tried end of the week rewards, which with this, he will only be good long enough to get the reward and then once he has it the behavior changes. After he hurts someone he feels such remorse that he sometimes hurts himself. He is a lot harder on himself and gives up VERY easily on himself. He actually feels like its the end of the world. I am tired of yelling. I am tired of hurting him. I am tired of letting him down. I don't know if any other parents have had this problem before with their children. I am ADD and bi-polar, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), suffer from anxiety attacks. I JUST recently have begun medication for myself. I REFUSE to put my son on medication. I had my issues under control until I had my kids and just recently the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and anxiety attacks have gotten worse in the past 2 years. I am scared that my child is going to go down the wrong path. I am scared he is going to unintentionally hurt someone, and I am scared that it is my fault. I know these things I have wrong with me are hereditary. And I am afraid because My mom had all of this, and now I do, that because I am his mom that now my child will suffer too. Mine was triggered from a traumatic event at a young age and I am scared that what my son saw has damaged my son. I don't want people to think my son is a bad boy. He isn't. And even his principal says that all the staff love him, and that he is everyones favorite student. But other students need to be safe. It hurts my heart to hear that students need to be safe from my child. And knowing that it is my fault. So this is the run down. If anyone knows of anything I can do please message me or reply to this. Thank you so much for your time. ~AmothersGuilt~