Im a first timer, I have been searching online for anykind of help...Im a single mother, I have a 12 year old son that has confirmed diagnosis of O.D.D., ADHD, Asbergers Syndrome, and Anxiety Disorder. I have battled through them all until recently....my son's defiance has gotten so escalated that I don't want to come home from work, I dread waking him up to get him ready for school, I am afraid to ask him to do anything for fear that he will retaliate by damaging property of mine. For example I asked him to scrape his plate off after supper in the trash, he threw it up against the wall to break it. He is on medications, he has been hospitalized, I have taken every parenting class imaginable, I have done the positive redirection, and mostly I have just cried. I am a single mother, and now my health is at stake, and I don't know what to do. The counselors don't see what I see. They see a child who can be an Emmy award winning actor in front of them, but they dont see the anger and rage as I do at home. Its just he and I, and its always been that way, his father has never been around so thats not an issue. I dont have any family close and I don't have very many friends. Its hard to find anyone who can understand my son and can tolerate him. I can't keep a boyfriend, most feel he needs a good spanking....So its just he and I. I work 40+ hours a week to just provide. Im a college educated, I truly believe in putting his needs first, but I don't know what to do...there are days I just want to run away and never come home. The doctors answer? They put me on depression medications...Is there ANYTHING out there that can help me? I feel that I have tried everything and nothing works. Yes I am consistant, if I say it, I will do it...The rules are the same everyday, the expectations are the same, they have been since he was 4...To be honest I actually thought about just Baker Acting him to give me a good nights rest, because i havent had more than 3 hours of sleep a night in months. I am just looking for someone who may have been where I am now and can offer words of encouragement, advice, or a place to go for help...thank you for listening.