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20 year old ready for next step...and I would love some transitional housing ideas.....
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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 750251" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>When he was using he bought a new Iphone without our permission and we are making him pay that back by mowing the grass weekly until it's paid off and then we'll find another reason for him to mow.</p><p></p><p>It's sometimes hard not to want to coddle a bit because he has been through a lot (his own doing) and I feared we'd lose him to drugs but he has come so very far and we're both so happy and proud but I hold tight onto my stance and keep reminding myself that I am doing it for HIM. Someday when I'm sure this is all far behind us I will tell him what I feel in my heart as now I know at times he finds me harsh which is so opposite of the mother I am. I always tell him to have high standards and strive for perfection which I know sounds crazy when I write that but I just cannot let him slip a little bit into where he was. It's so much work for me to be this way.</p><p></p><p>I do see that he has a lot of pride in things he pays for. He put a down payment on his truck and takes very good care of it. He makes the payments and just loves it. We're thinking when he gets his own place he'll do that also because now he realizes how hard it is to make a living which is truly priceless. He so needed to learn that lesson. I don't think that he has a clue how much he hurt us or maybe he just doesn't want to face it but he will be vindicated by making something out of himself and his life.</p><p></p><p>We also take him to church every weekend and I'm the driving force in that because I feel that he really needs it; well we all do actually.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 750251, member: 15032"] When he was using he bought a new Iphone without our permission and we are making him pay that back by mowing the grass weekly until it's paid off and then we'll find another reason for him to mow. It's sometimes hard not to want to coddle a bit because he has been through a lot (his own doing) and I feared we'd lose him to drugs but he has come so very far and we're both so happy and proud but I hold tight onto my stance and keep reminding myself that I am doing it for HIM. Someday when I'm sure this is all far behind us I will tell him what I feel in my heart as now I know at times he finds me harsh which is so opposite of the mother I am. I always tell him to have high standards and strive for perfection which I know sounds crazy when I write that but I just cannot let him slip a little bit into where he was. It's so much work for me to be this way. I do see that he has a lot of pride in things he pays for. He put a down payment on his truck and takes very good care of it. He makes the payments and just loves it. We're thinking when he gets his own place he'll do that also because now he realizes how hard it is to make a living which is truly priceless. He so needed to learn that lesson. I don't think that he has a clue how much he hurt us or maybe he just doesn't want to face it but he will be vindicated by making something out of himself and his life. We also take him to church every weekend and I'm the driving force in that because I feel that he really needs it; well we all do actually. [/QUOTE]
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