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20 yr old son from divorced home with substance abuse and anxiety
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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 649626" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Hi Johnz and welcome to the SA forum. You have come to the right place. Many of us have traveled this journey and can share our experiences with you.</p><p></p><p>My opinion is that you are doing the right thing. Getting him away from his troubled friends is good. I read a book once that said the single most important thing to do is get a substance abusing loved one away from that environment.</p><p></p><p>However, I am glad that you are going into this with your eyes open. Your son will not become a model citizen overnight.You will also likely face anger because he may feel like you abandoned him all those years ago whether his anger is justified or not.</p><p></p><p>You will have to set strict boundaries and stick to them. Have a back up plan ready. Something like making it clear that if your son does drugs or brings them in your house, he will have to leave your home and go to rehab and then a sober house. </p><p></p><p>I would also suggest going to meetings like Alanon, Naranon or Families Anonymous. You will need support as you go through this. Private therapy has been very helpful to me.</p><p></p><p>Others will have other advice and will come along soon. Remember to use whatever advice makes sense to you in your situation and leave the rest.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting. You will find great support and understanding here.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 649626, member: 1967"] Hi Johnz and welcome to the SA forum. You have come to the right place. Many of us have traveled this journey and can share our experiences with you. My opinion is that you are doing the right thing. Getting him away from his troubled friends is good. I read a book once that said the single most important thing to do is get a substance abusing loved one away from that environment. However, I am glad that you are going into this with your eyes open. Your son will not become a model citizen overnight.You will also likely face anger because he may feel like you abandoned him all those years ago whether his anger is justified or not. You will have to set strict boundaries and stick to them. Have a back up plan ready. Something like making it clear that if your son does drugs or brings them in your house, he will have to leave your home and go to rehab and then a sober house. I would also suggest going to meetings like Alanon, Naranon or Families Anonymous. You will need support as you go through this. Private therapy has been very helpful to me. Others will have other advice and will come along soon. Remember to use whatever advice makes sense to you in your situation and leave the rest. Keep posting. You will find great support and understanding here. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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