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21 year old son in and out of house
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 632784" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>It's not. It is counter-cultural, especially for moms and their adult sons and daughters. We just keep on taking care of, on and on and on and on, and one day we wake up and say, "What the heck?" This person is 40 years old, and I'm 60 years old and what in the world was I thinking? </p><p></p><p>We can decide to stop the madness before that but it takes a whole new way of thinking and acting and we have to learn how to do it. </p><p></p><p>People who "don't have a program" and who aren't in recovery themselves---recovery from enabling----can't imagine not taking care of their children, regardless of their age. It's unfathomable to them. </p><p></p><p>I have tried to share enough information about Al-Anon and recovery thinking with my immediate family so that they have an inkling of the thinking. I also sent my parents the Courage to Change devotional book---I have no idea if they read it. My brother is an alcoholic and it would help them, but that is their decision. </p><p></p><p>We have to be sick and tired enough to seek out and search out a new way of living. For many of us, that new way of living is a 12-step program.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 632784, member: 17542"] It's not. It is counter-cultural, especially for moms and their adult sons and daughters. We just keep on taking care of, on and on and on and on, and one day we wake up and say, "What the heck?" This person is 40 years old, and I'm 60 years old and what in the world was I thinking? We can decide to stop the madness before that but it takes a whole new way of thinking and acting and we have to learn how to do it. People who "don't have a program" and who aren't in recovery themselves---recovery from enabling----can't imagine not taking care of their children, regardless of their age. It's unfathomable to them. I have tried to share enough information about Al-Anon and recovery thinking with my immediate family so that they have an inkling of the thinking. I also sent my parents the Courage to Change devotional book---I have no idea if they read it. My brother is an alcoholic and it would help them, but that is their decision. We have to be sick and tired enough to seek out and search out a new way of living. For many of us, that new way of living is a 12-step program. [/QUOTE]
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