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<blockquote data-quote="youngmomwithadultson" data-source="post: 632825" data-attributes="member: 18247"><p>day two after reading over the detachment article several times and taking to heart the advice I was given and reading over the stories I have seen here things have really started to click. I finally feel like I am on the outside of the nightmare, instead of inside trying to wake myself up. Does anyone remember their ah ha moment? Since i'm in the middle of mine, I really would love to hear about your ah ha moments too.</p><p> </p><p> Oh please don't get me wrong, my heart still hurts. It still aches. I'm still weak but man do I get it now. I'm not in charge of my sons life. I can't make him do whats best for him. I'm upset that he won't do what's best for him but I have to stop setting these rules that he makes a good life for himself. I have to start setting rules that I make a good life for MYSELF and oh my god, how things are changing, my inner light has come back on. I set the appointment for the therapist too for next Tuesday. I scheduled our big move to West Palm Beach Florida for Nov. 1st. Yea, i'm semi retiring to Florida at 38.. that's kind of a joke, you can punch me for that, not the moving part, i'm really doing that!</p><p> </p><p> Now that I get it, I've read so many stories about what to say when he starts using his manipulation tactics to get his way, or when he wants to use me as his mental punching bag.</p><p> </p><p> MWM told me to do something nice for myself and I can't figure out what that is YET lol but as soon as I do.. i'm gonna do that so hard.. (that's what the kids say)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="youngmomwithadultson, post: 632825, member: 18247"] day two after reading over the detachment article several times and taking to heart the advice I was given and reading over the stories I have seen here things have really started to click. I finally feel like I am on the outside of the nightmare, instead of inside trying to wake myself up. Does anyone remember their ah ha moment? Since i'm in the middle of mine, I really would love to hear about your ah ha moments too. Oh please don't get me wrong, my heart still hurts. It still aches. I'm still weak but man do I get it now. I'm not in charge of my sons life. I can't make him do whats best for him. I'm upset that he won't do what's best for him but I have to stop setting these rules that he makes a good life for himself. I have to start setting rules that I make a good life for MYSELF and oh my god, how things are changing, my inner light has come back on. I set the appointment for the therapist too for next Tuesday. I scheduled our big move to West Palm Beach Florida for Nov. 1st. Yea, i'm semi retiring to Florida at 38.. that's kind of a joke, you can punch me for that, not the moving part, i'm really doing that! Now that I get it, I've read so many stories about what to say when he starts using his manipulation tactics to get his way, or when he wants to use me as his mental punching bag. MWM told me to do something nice for myself and I can't figure out what that is YET lol but as soon as I do.. i'm gonna do that so hard.. (that's what the kids say) [/QUOTE]
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