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21 year old son in and out of house
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 634441" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>YM, what you are referring to is a lot more common then you might think. Losing ourselves in the way you are describing is a hallmark of codependency, external focus to the almost complete avoidance of the care of the SELF. Little by little we lose ourselves to the care of another or the care of others.</p><p></p><p>Recovery from Codependency is a process of learning to put the focus on ourselves, learning to love ourselves, accept ourselves and honor ourselves. Often the beginning of our healing happens when we become so depleted, exhausted and drained that we begin to wake up to the fact that life isn't supposed to be this way.</p><p></p><p>You might want to read Codependent No More by Melodie Beattie. CoDa 12 step groups or any 12 step group can be very helpful. Private therapy, counseling or a parent group would be helpful as well.</p><p></p><p>We recover slowly, in a step by step process where we put our needs and wants FIRST. I found professional help to be extremely beneficial. In addition to learning tools to change your responses to your son, and to put yourself as a priority, you will begin to feel a lot better about yourself and about your own life, you will begin to thrive as opposed to simply surviving. </p><p></p><p>Most of us here are in varying stages of this process of healing, recovering, detaching, learning and growing. We support each other in finding ourselves amidst the maze of chaos and uncertainty our kids bring into our lives. You're not alone YM, keep posting, it helps a lot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 634441, member: 13542"] YM, what you are referring to is a lot more common then you might think. Losing ourselves in the way you are describing is a hallmark of codependency, external focus to the almost complete avoidance of the care of the SELF. Little by little we lose ourselves to the care of another or the care of others. Recovery from Codependency is a process of learning to put the focus on ourselves, learning to love ourselves, accept ourselves and honor ourselves. Often the beginning of our healing happens when we become so depleted, exhausted and drained that we begin to wake up to the fact that life isn't supposed to be this way. You might want to read Codependent No More by Melodie Beattie. CoDa 12 step groups or any 12 step group can be very helpful. Private therapy, counseling or a parent group would be helpful as well. We recover slowly, in a step by step process where we put our needs and wants FIRST. I found professional help to be extremely beneficial. In addition to learning tools to change your responses to your son, and to put yourself as a priority, you will begin to feel a lot better about yourself and about your own life, you will begin to thrive as opposed to simply surviving. Most of us here are in varying stages of this process of healing, recovering, detaching, learning and growing. We support each other in finding ourselves amidst the maze of chaos and uncertainty our kids bring into our lives. You're not alone YM, keep posting, it helps a lot. [/QUOTE]
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