My 21 yr old Daughter is taking Klonopin and drinking Alcohol. She was partying daily in the spring while away at college at NYC. Drinking heavily. Her brother and her boyfriends mother came to me and said she has a drug problem and needs to come home. We find out she got a tatoo of a gun pointing at her left ear, which is very sad to me. We got her home and confronted her and got her to agree to go to therapy. Therapist thought she was depressed and had her go to PCP instead of Psychiatrist for medications for depression. Doctors appointment ends up being with a Physician Assistant who prescribes Celexa, Hydroxizine for sleep, and hands her Klonopin samples for sleep. Daughter's therapist wants to meet with her father and I, and ends up confronting us for being overbearing and controlling parents who have to realize she is 21 yrs old and can do what she wants. We tell therapist she has been lying, stealing, abusing alcohol, and several people tell us abusing drugs, specifically cocaine. Tell therapist daughter was suppose to get a job for the summer, this has not happened. Daughter comes home, sleeps all day, stays up all night on twitter. Lives like a pig, and wants car and money from parents. She has speeding ticket cout date and fine of $280, lost her phone and her license again for the 10th time, and wants us to pay. The family has all confronted her, she hates us all. She has got good grades in school, but has dropped a few classes and this year has to make up those classes and her course load will be high.
Daughter would tell me she was feeling anxious and took Klonopin then I noticed beer bottles in her room. I stressed to her she cannot drink and take this medication. She said ok didnt htink is was a big deal. Then less than a week later she takes 2mg Klonopin at night (suppose to take only 0.25mg) and drinks beers. I confront her and she is furious I saw the opened pill packages and empty beer bottles and call me crazy, I scare her, and she has to get out of the house, and go to NYC. So old boyfriend pays for her bus ticket, but she needs a ride to the station. I tell her I will take her if she leaves the Klonopin at home, she refuses and takes the car keys. I have to pick up the phone and start dialing police and she gives me back the car keys. Finally she gives me the pills, I drive her bus station. I am crying the whole ride. She has no response. She emails me she is going tell her Therapist I bribed her and took her pills which may be against the law. I din't respond to her email.
Her father and I feel like we are held hostage, I don't want to push her away for ever, I want her to change her behavior. She can keep it together for 2 -3 days then she acts terrible, messes up, makes poor decisions. This has been ongoing for several years. I am exhusted and now her life is at risk. I feel she is at a crossroads in her life. I would appreciate any words of advice.
Daughter would tell me she was feeling anxious and took Klonopin then I noticed beer bottles in her room. I stressed to her she cannot drink and take this medication. She said ok didnt htink is was a big deal. Then less than a week later she takes 2mg Klonopin at night (suppose to take only 0.25mg) and drinks beers. I confront her and she is furious I saw the opened pill packages and empty beer bottles and call me crazy, I scare her, and she has to get out of the house, and go to NYC. So old boyfriend pays for her bus ticket, but she needs a ride to the station. I tell her I will take her if she leaves the Klonopin at home, she refuses and takes the car keys. I have to pick up the phone and start dialing police and she gives me back the car keys. Finally she gives me the pills, I drive her bus station. I am crying the whole ride. She has no response. She emails me she is going tell her Therapist I bribed her and took her pills which may be against the law. I din't respond to her email.
Her father and I feel like we are held hostage, I don't want to push her away for ever, I want her to change her behavior. She can keep it together for 2 -3 days then she acts terrible, messes up, makes poor decisions. This has been ongoing for several years. I am exhusted and now her life is at risk. I feel she is at a crossroads in her life. I would appreciate any words of advice.