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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 638200" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome overwhelmed. I'm sorry you are going through this with your daughter. It is a difficult path you find yourself on. Made more complicated by the grandbaby.</p><p></p><p>My daughter is 41. She did not devolve in to being troubled until her husband committed suicide. Her life spiraled out of control at that point. I raised her daughter from 11 until she just left for college this past August. </p><p></p><p>So, I know how you feel.</p><p></p><p>Whatever diagnoses or drug related issues are present, in my opinion, although that can be helpful to know, it usually doesn't alter the plan much for us the parents. If our troubled kids do not seek the help they require and as long as they are not psychotic, then the path for us is to set strong boundaries which we stick to, and to take very good care of ourselves. Getting yourself in to supportive environments is a key issue. Therapy, support groups, 12 step groups, whatever you can get yourself into will make this considerably easier for you. I had a massive amount of support and it was still devastating. We are talking about our children, it is not easy to let go.</p><p></p><p>You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to get a copy of Codependent no More by Melodie Beattie. Contact NAMI too, you can access them online, they are the National Alliance on Mental Illness and they have excellent courses for parents. </p><p></p><p>I agree with the way you are handling this. Getting a restraining order and having an intervention is excellent. I have no experience in interventions, but I have read on the Substance Abuse forum that there are professionals who do them and some here have had good results going down that path. </p><p></p><p>I think it is imperative for you to have a good support system for yourself. That will make this smoother and you will be offered guidance, information, support, compassion and understanding along with having a safe place to vent. </p><p></p><p>I wish you peace for today and guidance in finding all the right people to help you and your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 638200, member: 13542"] Welcome overwhelmed. I'm sorry you are going through this with your daughter. It is a difficult path you find yourself on. Made more complicated by the grandbaby. My daughter is 41. She did not devolve in to being troubled until her husband committed suicide. Her life spiraled out of control at that point. I raised her daughter from 11 until she just left for college this past August. So, I know how you feel. Whatever diagnoses or drug related issues are present, in my opinion, although that can be helpful to know, it usually doesn't alter the plan much for us the parents. If our troubled kids do not seek the help they require and as long as they are not psychotic, then the path for us is to set strong boundaries which we stick to, and to take very good care of ourselves. Getting yourself in to supportive environments is a key issue. Therapy, support groups, 12 step groups, whatever you can get yourself into will make this considerably easier for you. I had a massive amount of support and it was still devastating. We are talking about our children, it is not easy to let go. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to get a copy of Codependent no More by Melodie Beattie. Contact NAMI too, you can access them online, they are the National Alliance on Mental Illness and they have excellent courses for parents. I agree with the way you are handling this. Getting a restraining order and having an intervention is excellent. I have no experience in interventions, but I have read on the Substance Abuse forum that there are professionals who do them and some here have had good results going down that path. I think it is imperative for you to have a good support system for yourself. That will make this smoother and you will be offered guidance, information, support, compassion and understanding along with having a safe place to vent. I wish you peace for today and guidance in finding all the right people to help you and your family. [/QUOTE]
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