So my husband and I have been married for 27 years. I have high blood pressure and my husband is borderline. We have a 25 yr old son that we are at wits end with and do not know which way to turn. He has 2 children, not with either mom. He is on probation for stealing from his one employer (still has fines he has to pay on). Cant keep a job. Will lie right to your face and even when confronted with facts and proof and will still try to make it like you are the one lying. Will steal out of my purse or wallets. has a seizure disorder and will skip appointments and tests. Will lie and say all went well until doctors call a couple days later and tell you he was not there. Last summer he decided to move out with a friend. After living with his buddy for a couple months, he called and asked about moving home. I told him, No you wanted to move out and your are 24, time for you to grow up and figure things out ( of course he lost his job again). So not being stupid, he went to his 80 some year old grandparents to see if he could move in there. Now they are no in the best of health. We then decided that instead of him putting them through all the drama and games he plays at their age that he was to move back in. He finally got a job, but was terminated for stealing, this when he went on probation. Finally got a job 2 weeks ago. Just yesterday, he was to start work at 6 am, he got up left for work at 5:20, we are thinking wow he is finally growing up, texts me on lunch that work is going good. Not thinking anything of it until I get home at 5:30. He is not home (which he has to take his seizures medications at this time) and find a message from his work that was left at 8:30 that morning, that he needs to call about his employment. Well I am not stupid, so when he finally got home at 10 at night, we said there is a message on the machine for him, he played it and then looks right at us and says "hmmm wonder why they didn't talked to me at work today". after a half hour of talking to him about it, he finally admitted he did not go into work, then half hour later, he says " yeh I did a no call no show" Uhhh wonder why they ended your employment. Now this has been the same MO for at least 4 yrs on every job he has had. He walks around like everyone owes him something. And doesn't care about anyone other than his own needs. Now we are at wits end and don't know what to do. We are actually starting couples counseling, not for our married but to help deal with all he has and is putting us through over the years. Any advice on what to do. Yes I know "thro him out" but how can you when he will run to 80 yr old grandparents. Cant let him put them through what he does to us.