A little history my wife and I are divorcing. We have been married 17 years with three stepchildren all hers. The two girls have been wonderfull, but the our son has been quite the nightmare. He was twelve when we married and his real dad was never in the picture even though I tried my best to make him welcome in my home anytime. Now our son is 26 he has quit college several times we sent him to a fireman academy he fished but will not pursue a career. He has had several jobs but quit after a few weeks. He has never been physically violent but we have endured years of verbal altercations.it has driven a wedge between his mother and I. Now for my problem. My wife and I no longer live together and live in a small town. We have a place to get gas for the farm and vehicles that is on a card reader credit system. I thought I had lost my card and went to cancel it and get a new card and PIN number. The owner checked my cards records and found some charges for unleaded gas and pulled up the video surveillance and it was our son filling up his truck. He came back two hours later and filled up a friends truc.the card is no longer valid should tell his mother or keep quite. She is the one that will catch the backlash and I just can't stand to see her going through this. Any advice would be so helfull.