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3 sons aged 16,19 & 25 HELP
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 596269" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome Lyrae. I'm sorry you are going through this hard time with your son. I would recommend YOU and your husband try to find some avenues of support for both of you. It is very difficult to deal with an adult child who is depressed and/or using drugs. In my opinion and experience, it is wise to get support, find a therapist, learn tools and find ways to set boundaries that you can live with in your home and once those are in place, if they are not followed, there needs to be consequences. </p><p></p><p>*It may be premature at this time, there may be other avenues others can offer, however, if he is living under your roof, you can make an evaluation and therapy a condition for him to continue to live in your home and for you to drive him around. There is no reason he should be able to dictate to you what it is he is not willing to do when you are taking care of him and he is living with you. There are 4 other people to consider in your family. </p><p></p><p>There is a good article at the bottom of my post on detachment which may be helpful to you. Find support for you and your husband, learn tools for detachment, learn how to set boundaries...........there comes a time for many of us here when we have to detach from our adult children and allow them to have the natural consequences of their behaviors. Keep posting it helps. I'm glad you found us. I hope your path gets easier.............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 596269, member: 13542"] Welcome Lyrae. I'm sorry you are going through this hard time with your son. I would recommend YOU and your husband try to find some avenues of support for both of you. It is very difficult to deal with an adult child who is depressed and/or using drugs. In my opinion and experience, it is wise to get support, find a therapist, learn tools and find ways to set boundaries that you can live with in your home and once those are in place, if they are not followed, there needs to be consequences. *It may be premature at this time, there may be other avenues others can offer, however, if he is living under your roof, you can make an evaluation and therapy a condition for him to continue to live in your home and for you to drive him around. There is no reason he should be able to dictate to you what it is he is not willing to do when you are taking care of him and he is living with you. There are 4 other people to consider in your family. There is a good article at the bottom of my post on detachment which may be helpful to you. Find support for you and your husband, learn tools for detachment, learn how to set boundaries...........there comes a time for many of us here when we have to detach from our adult children and allow them to have the natural consequences of their behaviors. Keep posting it helps. I'm glad you found us. I hope your path gets easier............. [/QUOTE]
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