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36 hours after release from jail, difficult child is high and drunk...
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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 618876" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>Good points all-I just have to get my head together and actually figure out what it is I'm thinking.</p><p></p><p>He called me just as I was leaving work-we have to sit around and wait for signing out time and he sounded mopey again. It was a stilted conversation and he was a little aggressive and depressed. I said I didn't know what I could tell him-the reality was that he had made choices that landed him there. I told him to make better ones and he said "NAH".</p><p></p><p>Was doing the typical difficult child thing about how all bets were off and he would be doing prison time and there's be no deals. He asked me to at least visit him once in prison (he really doesn't know if he WILL be going there) before I died. Whaaat? Who said I was dying? I think it was a combo of knowing what an idiot he has been and is, and also remorse that he had it good. But now reality has set in.</p><p></p><p>He's trying to get back into his Phoenix pod, full of criminals that are addicted. His buddies are there, but he feels comfortable and hopes there's enough room to get back into that program.</p><p></p><p>What point am I making? Don't know. It just seemed whiny-he said he was coming off the booze but really, what did he THINK I could POSSIBLY do? But of course I fel t guilty after that -did I say the right soothing motherly things? (no) and why should I really? So he said "Well, do you only want me to call you if I need money on my card?" and I said "yeah that's fine". and I said Keep me posted, I love you. No reply and an hang up....</p><p></p><p>So trying to get out of the net. Will write a letter-don't want to be lecture-y and will put in someo snippets about myself. But honestly, I can't even remember him asking "How are you?"</p><p></p><p>Again, rambling. Knowing him, he will be fine in about 20 minutes and on to some other feeling. But I hate the nagging doubt in the back of my mind, like "hmmm, something is wrong, what is it again?" and UGH, it's him.</p><p></p><p>Did this make any sense? I think I'm just venting and am now very tired, so thanks for reading if you got this far! Just stinking well drained...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 618876, member: 13561"] Good points all-I just have to get my head together and actually figure out what it is I'm thinking. He called me just as I was leaving work-we have to sit around and wait for signing out time and he sounded mopey again. It was a stilted conversation and he was a little aggressive and depressed. I said I didn't know what I could tell him-the reality was that he had made choices that landed him there. I told him to make better ones and he said "NAH". Was doing the typical difficult child thing about how all bets were off and he would be doing prison time and there's be no deals. He asked me to at least visit him once in prison (he really doesn't know if he WILL be going there) before I died. Whaaat? Who said I was dying? I think it was a combo of knowing what an idiot he has been and is, and also remorse that he had it good. But now reality has set in. He's trying to get back into his Phoenix pod, full of criminals that are addicted. His buddies are there, but he feels comfortable and hopes there's enough room to get back into that program. What point am I making? Don't know. It just seemed whiny-he said he was coming off the booze but really, what did he THINK I could POSSIBLY do? But of course I fel t guilty after that -did I say the right soothing motherly things? (no) and why should I really? So he said "Well, do you only want me to call you if I need money on my card?" and I said "yeah that's fine". and I said Keep me posted, I love you. No reply and an hang up.... So trying to get out of the net. Will write a letter-don't want to be lecture-y and will put in someo snippets about myself. But honestly, I can't even remember him asking "How are you?" Again, rambling. Knowing him, he will be fine in about 20 minutes and on to some other feeling. But I hate the nagging doubt in the back of my mind, like "hmmm, something is wrong, what is it again?" and UGH, it's him. Did this make any sense? I think I'm just venting and am now very tired, so thanks for reading if you got this far! Just stinking well drained... [/QUOTE]
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