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4-20 is coming; what are your plans?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 38053" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">This year those same thugs were at it again but thankfully difficult child has moved on to non thug peers.</div></div></p><p></p><p>Even though it didn't go down as bad as I thought, that didn't stop him from going out on 4/21 and getting stoned with those same friends. However, he did come home when we found out what he was doing, he didn't turn around and leave again when we said he was grounded for the rest of the night, and he didn't even pitch much of a fit when he found out we flushed his weed down the toilet (he knew the house rules, so he didn't have much of a leg to stand on for that one).</p><p></p><p>I've said it before - I'll take any progress I can get, as long as it's forward. And that was definitely NOT behavior I expected.</p><p></p><p>But despite any other progress my son has made, the only friends he DOES have are his old drug buddies. And the harder I try to get him to see beyond them, the harder he fights to hold on to them.</p><p></p><p>If my difficult child could move on to a different group like your difficult child did, I think that would be a major step forward for him. Unfortunately, he holds onto them like a drowning man on a life preserver. </p><p></p><p>Every other positive change in his life occurred when he was ready to make it - and not one moment sooner - regardless of any threats, bribes, or posturing on our part. I guess he'll let go of them when he's good and ready.</p><p></p><p> :hammer: </p><p></p><p>Until then, we'll continue to be supportive of his positive behavior, and deal with the negative issues as they occur. That seems to work best (for us).</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 38053, member: 3579"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">This year those same thugs were at it again but thankfully difficult child has moved on to non thug peers.</div></div> Even though it didn't go down as bad as I thought, that didn't stop him from going out on 4/21 and getting stoned with those same friends. However, he did come home when we found out what he was doing, he didn't turn around and leave again when we said he was grounded for the rest of the night, and he didn't even pitch much of a fit when he found out we flushed his weed down the toilet (he knew the house rules, so he didn't have much of a leg to stand on for that one). I've said it before - I'll take any progress I can get, as long as it's forward. And that was definitely NOT behavior I expected. But despite any other progress my son has made, the only friends he DOES have are his old drug buddies. And the harder I try to get him to see beyond them, the harder he fights to hold on to them. If my difficult child could move on to a different group like your difficult child did, I think that would be a major step forward for him. Unfortunately, he holds onto them like a drowning man on a life preserver. Every other positive change in his life occurred when he was ready to make it - and not one moment sooner - regardless of any threats, bribes, or posturing on our part. I guess he'll let go of them when he's good and ready. [img]:hammer:[/img] Until then, we'll continue to be supportive of his positive behavior, and deal with the negative issues as they occur. That seems to work best (for us). Mikey [/QUOTE]
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