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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 571958" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Mimi, I heard "he's not on the spectrum" until elevin years old, but in my heart I didn't believe it. I don't know if your son does these things (all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids are different) but mine would also rock to comfort hmself and hit himself if he got VERY frustrated, which was scary. Aside from that, a ton of therapists, psychologists, and even a multi-disciplanary group of professionals, which included a psychologist, Occupational Therapist (OT), PT and a few others all refused to admit he was on the spectrum. Since I thought he could use spectrum interventions, I fought with the school anyway to give him PT, Occupational Therapist (OT) and social skills, which he desperately needed. He also needed a quiet place to learn...too many kids distracted him. He went through a very scary bipolar diagnosis which was dead wrong (he has always usually been very mellow, not moody at all, just frustrated as a toddler to about six only at certain times). They put him on tons and tons of medication that just made him either lethargic or overweight or worse. But I bought the bipolar diagnosis for a few years. Then I took my son to a group of people who actually had bipolar kids. The bipolar kids were far more social than him. He kept to himself and one of the mothers asked, "Are you SURE he's bipolar and not on the spectrum?" He was 11. </p><p></p><p>That did it. I took him to see a neuropsychologist. This was against the advice was our psychiatrist who was sure he was bipolar, but we didn't see enough improvement so we did it anyway. We had ten HOURS of intensive testing of our kid. The neuropsychologist had worked for ten years at Mayo Clinic and then moved to Wisconsin. He was top notch and told us he felt it was Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified/high functioning autism. We weaned son off all his heavy duty medications and started him in Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions and it was all uphill from there. It was like we finally got it, but all those years of doctors saying.."He's too social" "His eye contact is too good" "he is this, he is that" deprived my son of us understanding him better in the early years. I couldn't trust any professiolnal, after what we've been through, that would say, with absolutism, that he KNOWS what a four year old has or doesn't have. Four is young. Nobody knows. </p><p></p><p>Right now I would push for interventions that you feel may help him, but you may need another psychologist to help you get him into an early education program. The 3 year old and up early education program is very helpful, even if the child is bright. The classes are small, but they try hard to teach the kids how to socialize or play with the children who are there. They also provide Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT and SLT as needed. </p><p></p><p>Perhaps a regular preschool is too "busy" for him. At his age, my best suggestion is to get him interventions. I would seriously n Occupational Therapist (OT) deal with any therapist who is behavioral in nature. Your child is wired differently they don't respond to typical behavior therapy. And nobody here can tell you what will help because all kids are different and we still don't know what is wrong with him. Use your mom gut. by the way, most ASDers are not brilliant...that halppens sometimes, but it is a stereotype. My son is average and has trouble performing average in certain areas. I believe this is more the norm, but then again there is no one norm.</p><p></p><p>I always think it is better to be safe than sorry. in my opinion without telling your psychologist, I'd get him a neuropsychologist evaluation. I just don't want this guy to talk you out of it.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you great luck!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 571958, member: 1550"] Mimi, I heard "he's not on the spectrum" until elevin years old, but in my heart I didn't believe it. I don't know if your son does these things (all Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids are different) but mine would also rock to comfort hmself and hit himself if he got VERY frustrated, which was scary. Aside from that, a ton of therapists, psychologists, and even a multi-disciplanary group of professionals, which included a psychologist, Occupational Therapist (OT), PT and a few others all refused to admit he was on the spectrum. Since I thought he could use spectrum interventions, I fought with the school anyway to give him PT, Occupational Therapist (OT) and social skills, which he desperately needed. He also needed a quiet place to learn...too many kids distracted him. He went through a very scary bipolar diagnosis which was dead wrong (he has always usually been very mellow, not moody at all, just frustrated as a toddler to about six only at certain times). They put him on tons and tons of medication that just made him either lethargic or overweight or worse. But I bought the bipolar diagnosis for a few years. Then I took my son to a group of people who actually had bipolar kids. The bipolar kids were far more social than him. He kept to himself and one of the mothers asked, "Are you SURE he's bipolar and not on the spectrum?" He was 11. That did it. I took him to see a neuropsychologist. This was against the advice was our psychiatrist who was sure he was bipolar, but we didn't see enough improvement so we did it anyway. We had ten HOURS of intensive testing of our kid. The neuropsychologist had worked for ten years at Mayo Clinic and then moved to Wisconsin. He was top notch and told us he felt it was Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified/high functioning autism. We weaned son off all his heavy duty medications and started him in Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions and it was all uphill from there. It was like we finally got it, but all those years of doctors saying.."He's too social" "His eye contact is too good" "he is this, he is that" deprived my son of us understanding him better in the early years. I couldn't trust any professiolnal, after what we've been through, that would say, with absolutism, that he KNOWS what a four year old has or doesn't have. Four is young. Nobody knows. Right now I would push for interventions that you feel may help him, but you may need another psychologist to help you get him into an early education program. The 3 year old and up early education program is very helpful, even if the child is bright. The classes are small, but they try hard to teach the kids how to socialize or play with the children who are there. They also provide Occupational Therapist (OT) and PT and SLT as needed. Perhaps a regular preschool is too "busy" for him. At his age, my best suggestion is to get him interventions. I would seriously n Occupational Therapist (OT) deal with any therapist who is behavioral in nature. Your child is wired differently they don't respond to typical behavior therapy. And nobody here can tell you what will help because all kids are different and we still don't know what is wrong with him. Use your mom gut. by the way, most ASDers are not brilliant...that halppens sometimes, but it is a stereotype. My son is average and has trouble performing average in certain areas. I believe this is more the norm, but then again there is no one norm. I always think it is better to be safe than sorry. in my opinion without telling your psychologist, I'd get him a neuropsychologist evaluation. I just don't want this guy to talk you out of it. Wishing you great luck!!!! [/QUOTE]
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