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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 97160" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>Well, I <strong>DO</strong> have other concerns, I just didn't want to make my post confusing to others. It's a long story.....</p><p></p><p>My grandson has no delays that I am aware of at all.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child daughter, (grandsons mother) does not have custody of him, she in fact has left the state and him. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/9-07tears.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":9-07tears:" title="crying :9-07tears:" data-shortname=":9-07tears:" /> She was not good for him here and I know it is not good for him that she left. What a double edged sword.</p><p></p><p>Our Grandson lives with his bio dad and his new baby's mama / girlfriend. I guess that is what you call her. What a mess!</p><p></p><p>My grandson is a least in a pre-k class for 3 yr. olds and I think that is good for him. But, he has behavior problems almost daily. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sad.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad:" title="sad :sad:" data-shortname=":sad:" /> I offered to try and help with a positive reinforcement reward. If he got a green card in school for the day, he could call me and I would praise him like crazy and if he was able to maintain for a week, we would go shopping at Wal-Mart and get more Thomas the Tank toys. He was excited, but guess what? His dad and his girlfriend have never called and their cell phones are now shut off. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/grrr.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":grrr:" title="grrr :grrr:" data-shortname=":grrr:" /></p><p></p><p>One time I had picked him up a couple of months ago, and we were nearing my home and told him I should call his mother so he could talk to her and he said "NO! don't call, they might make me go home!"</p><p></p><p>The last time we had him and had to take him home early for his night escapades, he said he didn't want to go home. I asked why and he said because his baby sister (1 yr. old) bites him. I told him she is a baby and didn't know better and maybe now she will quit? Just trying to make the transition easier for him. Then he said.............. "<strong>I don't want to go home because I HATE MY DAD!!!"</strong> I was shocked and said oh no, you can't talk like that! I know children looooove their grandparents alot! But as it should be, they (if things are right) loooooove their parents even more!!!</p><p></p><p>Our grandson has been potty trained for a while now. He always does very well for me. He loves to please his grandma! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smile.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smile:" title="smile :smile:" data-shortname=":smile:" /> He took a while being consistent getting those BM's in the potty, but this grandma <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smile.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smile:" title="smile :smile:" data-shortname=":smile:" /> gave him a piece of gum EVERY single time he managed to get even the tiniest BM in the potty. He loves, loves,loves gum. Now, I'll tell you why I felt the need to mention all this.........</p><p></p><p>The last night our grandson spent the night and got into trouble, he had a pull up on and had a HUGE BM in it when we realized he was up and about. He can go to the potty by himself. He talks very well, he is able to tell us anything! I am very, very concerned about this. I pray I am making something out of nothing, but there are too many warning signs.</p><p></p><p>My husband and I stopped by his house the next weekend (remember no phone) to ask if our grandson could go to lunch and spend a couple of hours with us. His dad's girlfriend answered the door and it appeared that our grandson was being punished in his room. He heard my voice, ran out of his room, jumped with joy and squealed GRANDMA! and hugged my legs. Dad's girlfriend told him to go back to his room. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/devil.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":devil:" title="devil :devil:" data-shortname=":devil:" /> Who does that to a child when their grandma comes to visit? They did allow him to come with us.</p><p></p><p>Another odd thing............ girlfriend told me that our grandson did not have any underwear on because he had peed them all up. WHY??? We don't see that behavior. So yes, I am concerned on more than one level.</p><p></p><p>I called CPS. This stuff is just not normal to me. Any thoughts?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 97160, member: 30"] Well, I [B]DO[/B] have other concerns, I just didn't want to make my post confusing to others. It's a long story..... My grandson has no delays that I am aware of at all. My difficult child daughter, (grandsons mother) does not have custody of him, she in fact has left the state and him. :tissue: She was not good for him here and I know it is not good for him that she left. What a double edged sword. Our Grandson lives with his bio dad and his new baby's mama / girlfriend. I guess that is what you call her. What a mess! My grandson is a least in a pre-k class for 3 yr. olds and I think that is good for him. But, he has behavior problems almost daily. :sad: I offered to try and help with a positive reinforcement reward. If he got a green card in school for the day, he could call me and I would praise him like crazy and if he was able to maintain for a week, we would go shopping at Wal-Mart and get more Thomas the Tank toys. He was excited, but guess what? His dad and his girlfriend have never called and their cell phones are now shut off. :grrr: One time I had picked him up a couple of months ago, and we were nearing my home and told him I should call his mother so he could talk to her and he said "NO! don't call, they might make me go home!" The last time we had him and had to take him home early for his night escapades, he said he didn't want to go home. I asked why and he said because his baby sister (1 yr. old) bites him. I told him she is a baby and didn't know better and maybe now she will quit? Just trying to make the transition easier for him. Then he said.............. "[B]I don't want to go home because I HATE MY DAD!!!"[/B] I was shocked and said oh no, you can't talk like that! I know children looooove their grandparents alot! But as it should be, they (if things are right) loooooove their parents even more!!! Our grandson has been potty trained for a while now. He always does very well for me. He loves to please his grandma! :smile: He took a while being consistent getting those BM's in the potty, but this grandma :smile: gave him a piece of gum EVERY single time he managed to get even the tiniest BM in the potty. He loves, loves,loves gum. Now, I'll tell you why I felt the need to mention all this......... The last night our grandson spent the night and got into trouble, he had a pull up on and had a HUGE BM in it when we realized he was up and about. He can go to the potty by himself. He talks very well, he is able to tell us anything! I am very, very concerned about this. I pray I am making something out of nothing, but there are too many warning signs. My husband and I stopped by his house the next weekend (remember no phone) to ask if our grandson could go to lunch and spend a couple of hours with us. His dad's girlfriend answered the door and it appeared that our grandson was being punished in his room. He heard my voice, ran out of his room, jumped with joy and squealed GRANDMA! and hugged my legs. Dad's girlfriend told him to go back to his room. :devil: Who does that to a child when their grandma comes to visit? They did allow him to come with us. Another odd thing............ girlfriend told me that our grandson did not have any underwear on because he had peed them all up. WHY??? We don't see that behavior. So yes, I am concerned on more than one level. I called CPS. This stuff is just not normal to me. Any thoughts? [/QUOTE]
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