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5 reasons to stop saying ' Good Job ' - Alfie Kohn
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 15613" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>We've used reward systems and charts to keep difficult child on target with her chores and school work. They worked sometimes and they didn't others. We were consistent in our expectations, however, we always had to come up with different methodologies to help her make the connection. Like I said, I don't think any ONE thing works. I think each child is different and requires a different approach. I do agree with the article (and Lisa) in the respect that constantly praising our kids seems to not be special after a while. And I also agree that always rewarding them for every little thing they do, things that EVERYONE has to do, creates an environment in which they won't do a thing without an outside reward rather than simple satisfaction of a job well done.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line: There is a time and a place for rewards.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 15613, member: 2211"] We've used reward systems and charts to keep difficult child on target with her chores and school work. They worked sometimes and they didn't others. We were consistent in our expectations, however, we always had to come up with different methodologies to help her make the connection. Like I said, I don't think any ONE thing works. I think each child is different and requires a different approach. I do agree with the article (and Lisa) in the respect that constantly praising our kids seems to not be special after a while. And I also agree that always rewarding them for every little thing they do, things that EVERYONE has to do, creates an environment in which they won't do a thing without an outside reward rather than simple satisfaction of a job well done. Bottom line: There is a time and a place for rewards. [/QUOTE]
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