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<blockquote data-quote="anxiety25" data-source="post: 5950" data-attributes="member: 3244"><p>dunno how much weight this holds, and whether or not it'd remotely apply to your own situation or not, but my son has a few issues I'm still investigating, but my ex (yes, EX) had a son who was autistic. We were living together for a while, but to be the one in charge of everything and trying to hold down the fort when things were let go too often by his father, was really rough. I was in charge of taking him to the park (along with my own 2), trying to control a hyperactive 4 year old (my own) and one who would randomly run off and start following strangers out into the street, etc., while trying to drag my stroller with my one year old behind me to try to catch him and keep it from tipping at the same time, lol, as well as every other activity (dinner, bedtime, bathtime, cleaning, coloring, etc.... just everything you think of when you think of 2 parents doing it), of course-indoor ones were my favorite... less running room, lol. So not same situation, but same idea roughly. </p><p></p><p>It was very very very rough, and his father did NOT want to believe there was anything wrong. It wasn't until after we were together for a year and his son was looking at a photo album with him, that he called me in and was pointing at pictures... "who's this?" he'd ask, and his son would say "that's Liz" (me). Then it didn't matter who was in the other pictures, they were all "cousin" to him. Even his own father's picture, he called cousin. This was when he realized he wasn't spending enough time, wasn't involved enough in the situation, and it finally dawned on him that he needed to get him to a pro to have it checked out.</p><p></p><p>Well, though the realization came through, better routine was set up in the house by him, but that's all that happened... he was still never home, and when he was, was pre-occupied with all kinds of stuff never spending one-on-one with his son. </p><p></p><p>I finally had to leave due to violent behaviors (by the father), so we moved... but before I left, I managed to find his doctor's number and set up an appointment. Turned out he had severe autism... sadly, from my knowledge, still nothing is being done-the parents just can carry around a card now that says that he is, but as far as one on one, this kid needs a lot more :frown:</p><p></p><p>...and last I heard, him bullying other children, taking toys, and everything has escalated, being condoned and approved by both parents 'cuz if he does it they just say "he's autistic" and expect other parents to understand without a problem, so he's not even getting one on one when working on discipline. His verbal has also worsened since :frown:</p><p></p><p>I wish you much luck in your situation, and not meaning to be a downer at all on the subject at hand... but in my situation, there was no other way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="anxiety25, post: 5950, member: 3244"] dunno how much weight this holds, and whether or not it'd remotely apply to your own situation or not, but my son has a few issues I'm still investigating, but my ex (yes, EX) had a son who was autistic. We were living together for a while, but to be the one in charge of everything and trying to hold down the fort when things were let go too often by his father, was really rough. I was in charge of taking him to the park (along with my own 2), trying to control a hyperactive 4 year old (my own) and one who would randomly run off and start following strangers out into the street, etc., while trying to drag my stroller with my one year old behind me to try to catch him and keep it from tipping at the same time, lol, as well as every other activity (dinner, bedtime, bathtime, cleaning, coloring, etc.... just everything you think of when you think of 2 parents doing it), of course-indoor ones were my favorite... less running room, lol. So not same situation, but same idea roughly. It was very very very rough, and his father did NOT want to believe there was anything wrong. It wasn't until after we were together for a year and his son was looking at a photo album with him, that he called me in and was pointing at pictures... "who's this?" he'd ask, and his son would say "that's Liz" (me). Then it didn't matter who was in the other pictures, they were all "cousin" to him. Even his own father's picture, he called cousin. This was when he realized he wasn't spending enough time, wasn't involved enough in the situation, and it finally dawned on him that he needed to get him to a pro to have it checked out. Well, though the realization came through, better routine was set up in the house by him, but that's all that happened... he was still never home, and when he was, was pre-occupied with all kinds of stuff never spending one-on-one with his son. I finally had to leave due to violent behaviors (by the father), so we moved... but before I left, I managed to find his doctor's number and set up an appointment. Turned out he had severe autism... sadly, from my knowledge, still nothing is being done-the parents just can carry around a card now that says that he is, but as far as one on one, this kid needs a lot more [img]:frown:[/img] ...and last I heard, him bullying other children, taking toys, and everything has escalated, being condoned and approved by both parents 'cuz if he does it they just say "he's autistic" and expect other parents to understand without a problem, so he's not even getting one on one when working on discipline. His verbal has also worsened since [img]:frown:[/img] I wish you much luck in your situation, and not meaning to be a downer at all on the subject at hand... but in my situation, there was no other way. [/QUOTE]
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