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<blockquote data-quote="nuone" data-source="post: 304642" data-attributes="member: 6772"><p>Hi - welcome to the board. I can identify with you very strongly. Also single mom of 2 adopted children. Eldest is easy child - now out earning a living and youngest difficult child - 16 and still in school. I adopted him at the age of 1 day old and have had 16 hard years with him. During all his assessments Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) was never addressed but strongly suspected by myself - in hindsight of course - (story on another post on the board). He was in a number of pre-schools due to his behavioural problems. Has been on behavioural medications from about the age of 7, and is still there. </p><p> </p><p>Found that the busier that I kept him the better. Physical things were the only thing that helped. I also put up a punching bag for him and for a while it did help with his aggression. Took it down when he started destroying it. One thing that I have learned over all time is that the more you show your emotions, frustrations and reactions to their behaviour, the more they feed off you and continue with theirs - not that it has been a magical fix, but when you <strong>can</strong> control yourself, they seem to give up a little quicker. Having said that, I do still battle with it. I had to grow a really thick skin when out with my little one - screaming, tantrums and performances at the mall and a mom with a straight face, continuing about her business gave me many, many remarks that hurt and left me crying myself to sleep at night. But, I too loved my difficult child - I think that as an adopted mom, you feel an added pressure or responsibility in bringing up these children.</p><p> </p><p>Hang in there and keep us posted. A big hug, cos you are special.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nuone, post: 304642, member: 6772"] Hi - welcome to the board. I can identify with you very strongly. Also single mom of 2 adopted children. Eldest is easy child - now out earning a living and youngest difficult child - 16 and still in school. I adopted him at the age of 1 day old and have had 16 hard years with him. During all his assessments Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) was never addressed but strongly suspected by myself - in hindsight of course - (story on another post on the board). He was in a number of pre-schools due to his behavioural problems. Has been on behavioural medications from about the age of 7, and is still there. Found that the busier that I kept him the better. Physical things were the only thing that helped. I also put up a punching bag for him and for a while it did help with his aggression. Took it down when he started destroying it. One thing that I have learned over all time is that the more you show your emotions, frustrations and reactions to their behaviour, the more they feed off you and continue with theirs - not that it has been a magical fix, but when you [B]can[/B] control yourself, they seem to give up a little quicker. Having said that, I do still battle with it. I had to grow a really thick skin when out with my little one - screaming, tantrums and performances at the mall and a mom with a straight face, continuing about her business gave me many, many remarks that hurt and left me crying myself to sleep at night. But, I too loved my difficult child - I think that as an adopted mom, you feel an added pressure or responsibility in bringing up these children. Hang in there and keep us posted. A big hug, cos you are special. [/QUOTE]
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