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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 253144" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Welcome! I for some reason think that when a child behaves at school and is much more difficult at home, that child thrives on structure. You could try tightening your structure at home. I know this is hard because I for one absolutely hate having structure - doing the same thing at the same time every single day but I think I am the odd one out on that?</p><p> </p><p>Do you have meals the same time every day? Are there too many choices for her during her free time? Maybe set the times for "room play" and "t.v. time" and bathroom time (to get ready for bed).</p><p></p><p>At five, she is learning so many things in school. She may be ready for the next level of activities at home. Put aside her toddler toys (don't take them away, she may still want to play with them) and start introducing bigger kids toys/activities - playdough, puzzles with a few more pieces, ect. You can ask her teacher which toys/activities she gravitates toward during play time at school.</p><p> </p><p>She has some very positive qualities in wanting to be kind to younger kids and loving hugs and cuddles. You need to be creative and positive and think outside the box to reach her - find out how she learns and present things in that way. The neuropsychologist evaluation will be a great start.</p><p> </p><p>Try keeping away from power struggles as much as possible. Be positive in every request. Instead of saying, "It is time to go, get your coat" try "We need to leave in a few minutes, is that enough time for you to be ready?" It is like talking to them as a guest in the home instead of someone who knows your rules. We get frustrated because we believe our kids should know what is expected and if we treat them otherwise, it will be easier for us to show patience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 253144, member: 5096"] Welcome! I for some reason think that when a child behaves at school and is much more difficult at home, that child thrives on structure. You could try tightening your structure at home. I know this is hard because I for one absolutely hate having structure - doing the same thing at the same time every single day but I think I am the odd one out on that? Do you have meals the same time every day? Are there too many choices for her during her free time? Maybe set the times for "room play" and "t.v. time" and bathroom time (to get ready for bed). At five, she is learning so many things in school. She may be ready for the next level of activities at home. Put aside her toddler toys (don't take them away, she may still want to play with them) and start introducing bigger kids toys/activities - playdough, puzzles with a few more pieces, ect. You can ask her teacher which toys/activities she gravitates toward during play time at school. She has some very positive qualities in wanting to be kind to younger kids and loving hugs and cuddles. You need to be creative and positive and think outside the box to reach her - find out how she learns and present things in that way. The neuropsychologist evaluation will be a great start. Try keeping away from power struggles as much as possible. Be positive in every request. Instead of saying, "It is time to go, get your coat" try "We need to leave in a few minutes, is that enough time for you to be ready?" It is like talking to them as a guest in the home instead of someone who knows your rules. We get frustrated because we believe our kids should know what is expected and if we treat them otherwise, it will be easier for us to show patience. [/QUOTE]
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