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5yr old defiant manipulative with 2 personalities
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<blockquote data-quote="Christy" data-source="post: 273021" data-attributes="member: 225"><p>Hello and Welcome,</p><p></p><p>You've been given some great advice and I agree that a thorough evaluation is essential. The thing that struck me about your post was that you mentioned that she was able to hold it togeher for a longer period of time because she was afraid of mlitary school. I think this is very encouraging. It sound like she can be motivated to control her behavior when it is important to her. A reward system may help elimate some negative behaviors. Start with just one or two behaviors and outline specifically what you expect and what the reward will be. For example, when asked to do something, difficult child will earn a sticker on a chart for each time she complies on the first request. After five stickers, she earns a trip for ice cream, an extra half hour of tv time, etc... Make a big deal out of even little successes. Give lots of attention for positive behaviors and try to avoid arguments (this is so hard for me!).</p><p></p><p>It also sounds like she wants to be the one in charge, not possible, but giving choices can somethimes cut down on power struggles. "Your crayons are getting on the table, would you like to put newspaper under your coloring book or choose a different thing to do?" </p><p></p><p>Good luck,</p><p>Christy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Christy, post: 273021, member: 225"] Hello and Welcome, You've been given some great advice and I agree that a thorough evaluation is essential. The thing that struck me about your post was that you mentioned that she was able to hold it togeher for a longer period of time because she was afraid of mlitary school. I think this is very encouraging. It sound like she can be motivated to control her behavior when it is important to her. A reward system may help elimate some negative behaviors. Start with just one or two behaviors and outline specifically what you expect and what the reward will be. For example, when asked to do something, difficult child will earn a sticker on a chart for each time she complies on the first request. After five stickers, she earns a trip for ice cream, an extra half hour of tv time, etc... Make a big deal out of even little successes. Give lots of attention for positive behaviors and try to avoid arguments (this is so hard for me!). It also sounds like she wants to be the one in charge, not possible, but giving choices can somethimes cut down on power struggles. "Your crayons are getting on the table, would you like to put newspaper under your coloring book or choose a different thing to do?" Good luck, Christy [/QUOTE]
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