As a stay at home mom of 4, 16F in d/a rehab, 13M difficult child that is straining our family and 2 Pre-k... I'm starting to think perhaps I don't know what is "normal" anymore. My 4.75yr old (turns t in May) is showing signs of aggression, anger and is definitely showing signs of major listening/following direction issues. I realize that while some of this is to be expected As limit testing and some is mimicking older bro...and some is attention getting as sometimes I can redirect him by saying I need some luvs, a hug or that I think he's grumpy cause he needs some luvs...but I'm starting to get concerned that perhaps he is going to have issues too...which starts the thought...he's from a differnt dad than older 2...different genetics, perhaps it's my parenting...though I'm really trying and have been through all sorts of classes, books, programs with- 13M difficult child... I don't think I can do another 13 years of craziness... I'll end up in psychiatric hospital. How do I make sure that he doesn't really start following my older 2's antics? Is visiting with a mental health counselor a good idea right now??? Dad will prolly freak... he doesn't really believe in the mental health system... don't blame his perception basedon the particular history, but I don't want to wait if something is going on with my wee man... any thoughts?