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8 year old acting out with my five year old
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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 294411" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi So Confused. I'm really sorry you had to find us. How upsetting this would be. </p><p> </p><p>I'm going to flag down some parents of older children on the general board (watch for responses here) so more moms will see it. I'm guessing that responses will be all over the place and in the end you will need to weigh it all and decide what's best for your family.</p><p> </p><p>Your friend definitely needs to be confronted and you need to take precautions that the two boys are never alone again. My gut reaction is that if it had happened once or twice you might be able to chalk it up to innocent exploration but that if it's happened "lots of times" something is definitely wrong there (along the lines of the other boy having been abused, viewed pornography, hypersexuality, etc).</p><p> </p><p>As to what to do for your son, that is really going to be a personal decision and may be based on how your friend responds and how your son responds. If your friend blows off your concern and opts not to get help, there will no doubt be other victims down the road. Personally I would probably schedule an appointment with a reputable sexual abuse counselor to discuss whether your son needs counseling (at least call and talk to someone). You do need to know that counselors in all states are mandatory reporters so it will likely start up an investigation by child protective services. I know that's painful if you're talking a friend's child but you really have to look out after your own little guy and younger sibling at this point. If it hasn't gone any further than this and he's not upset by it then probably ongoing counseling wouldn't be necessary. But if something else has occured and you don't check out that possibility in a professional manner, there could be some serious implications down the road.</p><p> </p><p>Are there any older brothers or adult males in the friend's household?</p><p> </p><p>Again welcome. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.</p><p>SRL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 294411, member: 701"] Hi So Confused. I'm really sorry you had to find us. How upsetting this would be. I'm going to flag down some parents of older children on the general board (watch for responses here) so more moms will see it. I'm guessing that responses will be all over the place and in the end you will need to weigh it all and decide what's best for your family. Your friend definitely needs to be confronted and you need to take precautions that the two boys are never alone again. My gut reaction is that if it had happened once or twice you might be able to chalk it up to innocent exploration but that if it's happened "lots of times" something is definitely wrong there (along the lines of the other boy having been abused, viewed pornography, hypersexuality, etc). As to what to do for your son, that is really going to be a personal decision and may be based on how your friend responds and how your son responds. If your friend blows off your concern and opts not to get help, there will no doubt be other victims down the road. Personally I would probably schedule an appointment with a reputable sexual abuse counselor to discuss whether your son needs counseling (at least call and talk to someone). You do need to know that counselors in all states are mandatory reporters so it will likely start up an investigation by child protective services. I know that's painful if you're talking a friend's child but you really have to look out after your own little guy and younger sibling at this point. If it hasn't gone any further than this and he's not upset by it then probably ongoing counseling wouldn't be necessary. But if something else has occured and you don't check out that possibility in a professional manner, there could be some serious implications down the road. Are there any older brothers or adult males in the friend's household? Again welcome. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. SRL [/QUOTE]
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