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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 111132" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hey, cool!!! Another WHITE Sox fan!!!! </p><p></p><p>Hey, I want to check in one last time on the boyfriend. I so agree that you think he's terrific and probably think of him when he's not around. I don't think you shouldn't see him, but I'd see him only when your ex has the kids. I would NEVER bring his kids around. Goodness, the kids are probably more traumatic to your child than the boyfriend, although it's a package nightmare for many divorced children. I made the mistake once of bringing just a man FRIEND home with his kids. My daughter freaked out (this is a daughter who turned to drugs later on). She was convinced that this man and I had something going on and she flat out told me that she wanted her daddy and yelled it in front of him and called him names (this child was also a easy child at the time--I blame myself partly for her drug use). She also told me later that if I'm going to have "his bratty kids" around she wanted to "live with Daddy. I don't want them here." This was maybe a year after my divorce from my ex.</p><p>Two years later, I met my husband. At first I tried to involve him with the kids, but they were very unhappy still--only one of my three bothered to even try to know him. I decided to keep him seperate from my kids when I saw two out of three acting very upset about him. I have found that no matter how much we love our new bfs and think they rock, our kids mourn for their dads and don't like to see mom with them. Even after husband and I married, two of the kids didn't accept him. I was lucky that husband was understanding and didn't try to be "daddy." He didn't get involved in discipline--me and ex did that, which made it a little better, but it was still hard. And hub had no children to complicate things further. </p><p>There's really no need to expose kids to our relationships as we have every other weekend free and can see boyfriend then. We have a right to be happy, but my opinion is not at the expense of our kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 111132, member: 1550"] Hey, cool!!! Another WHITE Sox fan!!!! Hey, I want to check in one last time on the boyfriend. I so agree that you think he's terrific and probably think of him when he's not around. I don't think you shouldn't see him, but I'd see him only when your ex has the kids. I would NEVER bring his kids around. Goodness, the kids are probably more traumatic to your child than the boyfriend, although it's a package nightmare for many divorced children. I made the mistake once of bringing just a man FRIEND home with his kids. My daughter freaked out (this is a daughter who turned to drugs later on). She was convinced that this man and I had something going on and she flat out told me that she wanted her daddy and yelled it in front of him and called him names (this child was also a easy child at the time--I blame myself partly for her drug use). She also told me later that if I'm going to have "his bratty kids" around she wanted to "live with Daddy. I don't want them here." This was maybe a year after my divorce from my ex. Two years later, I met my husband. At first I tried to involve him with the kids, but they were very unhappy still--only one of my three bothered to even try to know him. I decided to keep him seperate from my kids when I saw two out of three acting very upset about him. I have found that no matter how much we love our new bfs and think they rock, our kids mourn for their dads and don't like to see mom with them. Even after husband and I married, two of the kids didn't accept him. I was lucky that husband was understanding and didn't try to be "daddy." He didn't get involved in discipline--me and ex did that, which made it a little better, but it was still hard. And hub had no children to complicate things further. There's really no need to expose kids to our relationships as we have every other weekend free and can see boyfriend then. We have a right to be happy, but my opinion is not at the expense of our kids. [/QUOTE]
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