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8 year old identical twin ...adhd and behavioral rages...getting worse
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 524378" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, older adopted kids are almost always extremely challenging. Russian kids especially seem to be challenging. Sometimes the kids were alcohol affected in utero (there is fetal alcohol effects, not the same extreme as Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), but still a challenge and it does not show up on genetic tests) and most kids lived in orphanages and get "orphanage syndrome" (aka attachment disorder). Attachment disordered kids are EXTREMELY difficult. I am going to post a link and suggest you see a psychiatrist/therapist who is VERY aware of the challenges of adopting kids who were not loved as infants and toddlers. The kids will not respond to normal therpist techniques and medications will probably not do the trick. You should also seek out a neuropsychologist evaluation for both.</p><p></p><p>I am the mom of adopted kids and two were from abroad...Korea (as a baby) and Hong Kong (at six). The baby attached to us. Not the six year old. in my opinion the article I posted is an excellent example of the problems of international older adoption. YOu are NOT alone! However, most adoptions are NOT disrupted, in spite of the problems. Most of us stick it out so that part of the article...I didn't post it to advocate that. I wanted you to see how normal it is for people to adopt older kids with no understanding of what they are going to be like and false profiles of their early lives or current issues. </p><p></p><p>You may want to join an adoptive parent group in your area to share ideas with others going through similar things.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk" target="_blank">http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk</a></p><p><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk" target="_blank"></a></p><p><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk" target="_blank">Her is another article, specicially about attachment issues:</a></p><p><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk" target="_blank"></a></p><p><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk" target="_blank">[url]http://www.helpguide.org/mental/parenting_bonding_reactive_attachment_disorder.htm</a></p><p>[/URL]</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 524378, member: 1550"] Well, older adopted kids are almost always extremely challenging. Russian kids especially seem to be challenging. Sometimes the kids were alcohol affected in utero (there is fetal alcohol effects, not the same extreme as Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), but still a challenge and it does not show up on genetic tests) and most kids lived in orphanages and get "orphanage syndrome" (aka attachment disorder). Attachment disordered kids are EXTREMELY difficult. I am going to post a link and suggest you see a psychiatrist/therapist who is VERY aware of the challenges of adopting kids who were not loved as infants and toddlers. The kids will not respond to normal therpist techniques and medications will probably not do the trick. You should also seek out a neuropsychologist evaluation for both. I am the mom of adopted kids and two were from abroad...Korea (as a baby) and Hong Kong (at six). The baby attached to us. Not the six year old. in my opinion the article I posted is an excellent example of the problems of international older adoption. YOu are NOT alone! However, most adoptions are NOT disrupted, in spite of the problems. Most of us stick it out so that part of the article...I didn't post it to advocate that. I wanted you to see how normal it is for people to adopt older kids with no understanding of what they are going to be like and false profiles of their early lives or current issues. You may want to join an adoptive parent group in your area to share ideas with others going through similar things. [URL="http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk"]http://abcnews.go.com/2020/story?id=6322100#.T4rv4_UR0vk Her is another article, specicially about attachment issues: [url]http://www.helpguide.org/mental/parenting_bonding_reactive_attachment_disorder.htm[/url] [/URL] [/QUOTE]
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