My difficult child 2 is our 8 yr 4 mo grandson. When difficult child 2 was 3 years old, his mom (ex-daughter in law) met someone on the internet and a couple of months later moved difficult child and herself to Minn to live. Since we all live in Texas, we have not been able to see difficult child 2 for the last 4 years. In October, ex-daughter in law decided to move back to this area and by Christmas had announced she intended to go back to Minn at the end of March and leave difficult child 2 with my son. She signed him over to ds and now is his non-custodial parent, is going to pay child support, couldn't wait to get away from here and was gone back to Minn by the first of March. Our ds lives on our property in a small travel trailer so right now, difficult child 2 stays in the house with us. Currently, we are raising our 11 year old autistic grandson, and just was awarded sole custody of ds's youngest, difficult child 3 so this makes 3 grandsons living with me and husband. Now we have a 8 year old that we have limited knowledge of living with us. He was diagnosis'ed by the school choir with ADHD and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and his family doctor has been treating him with Adderal XR 20 mg in the morning and 5 mg after school. When we saw difficult child 2 for the first time in years, we were appalled.... he weighs 35 lbs soaking wet! He looks like a child from a 3rd world country - you can see every bone, I was afraid to hug him for fear of hurting him when we first saw him. We have learned from reading medication records from his fam doctor that "mom" was the one requested the additional 5 mg in afternoon because difficult child 2 was out of control. The first thing we did as soon as mom was out of state was discontinue the Adderall. We are waiting for appointment with new pediatrician in this area and will see him soon. difficult child 2 has a big problem with authority figures, back talks, mimics and absolutely refuses to do anything he does not want to do such as school work. He can read, he's articulate, has a sense of humor, but when the very second someone asks him to do something - some switch turns on and he just can not/will not do it. He will do absolutely anything to distract you, avoid doing whatever, it is unbelievable. He tells lies upon lies for absolutely no reason. He is manipulative and believes he is or should be the center of attention. One of the concerns is that he does not "comprehend" the way we talk - we are Texans lol and he's been raised in Minn - no offense to anyone - just totally different ways of talking. So he does not "get" the very basic stuff we talk about every day. I don't know if he is plain stubborn or maybe has traits of Aspergers'. Does he sound familiar to anyone?