since my son was about 3 years old i noticed something wasn't right i took him to several doctors (behavioral,speech,autism testing,and was also evaluated at school) each referring to another and i got nowhere i felt like i was going in circles he started with tantrums when strangers were around he would trow himself on the floor screaming your hurting me at the top of his lungs yet all i was doing was holding his hand (he still acts out but not as bad)then by 4 he started getting violent he would hit family members and thought nothing of it even when he was told it was wrong(he is still doing this) by 4 1/2 he wouldn't communicate his feelings you can talk to him but he would just have a dead look in his eyes like as if he was in another world he would just shut down(he is still doing this) we have had major issues with him having a bowel movement in the toilet he just turned 8 2 months ago and he just started going on the toilet before that he would just do it on himself and not care he would just sit in it he has also made up stories at school saying me and his father hit him which was untrue he is always saying he is stupid and that nobody cares about him at times he has left marks on his body he bangs his head on walls stomps and hits things there was one time while in school he started digging a pencil in his arm and had no explanation why he is in the 3rd grade now and every school year i have spoken to the teacher 4 out of the 5 days he was there this school year just begun today made day 7 and i have spoke to the teacher 5 times already he refuses to do any work in school and when he comes home its no better we can sit down to down homework at 4:30 and not get done till 10 and he only gets 3 things to do i also have 2 other sons my 10 year old is constantly be harassed by him and a 1 year old who he has started to act out on just the other day my 1 yr old tried to give the 8 yr old a hug and my 8 yr old shoved him hard enough that my 1 yr old fell down and he did that with a room full of people i never leave the baby alone with him because i don't know what he might do i would say he his like the sour patch kids commercial first he is sour then he is sweet because one minute he hates you and the next he loves you i don't know what to do with him if anyone has any ideas they would be well appreciated sorry if everything was typed so randomly