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9M difficult child... I'm wearing thin fast.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 613806" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, I'm going to chime in again.</p><p></p><p>Your son is nothing like this child and you don't have other kids who don't understand and need to be protected. It is one thing to worry about your chlld's future as far as independence and going to college and another to worry that he may seriously harm somebody else. I did not see any "hate" in Aimless's posts. She is dealing with something most people even on this board do not understand and she has seven other kids. If you had seven other kids, or even one, and J. suddenly jumped out and tried to choke a two year old, you would not feel much compassion for him at that time. You would feel fear and maybe momentarily something else. You would angst over whether or not it is safe for the child to live at home. You would be searching for solutions, as Aimless said.</p><p></p><p>I am assuming that since France and Morocco do not even acknowledge that many kids have ADHD, there is probably a lack of knowledge about attachment issues as well. Before you judge, perhaps you should go to an adoption site (I am going to post one for Aimless) where not only do these people understand, but they can maybe direct her to places that can help her with this child. You are trying to help J. pretty much by yourself and medication and he has more moderate difficulties, so you may be able to do it. Maybe. Time will tell. But this family can not do this...they can not afford to say "poor little kid" because there are other kids who could get hurt by him. She needs to find help, both for him and for the rest of them...practical help. I wish WE had done that. Malika, you have a good heart. Time will tell if understanding and compassion is enough for your cutie pie. Either way, you do not have to worry about the safety of other children. It's different. It is more urgent.</p><p></p><p>Here is the link to the adoption site. They understand Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and even have one forum just for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids. I am sorry you had to experience people who don't understand this tragic problem. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Ok, here's the link:</p><p></p><p><a href="http://forums.adoption.com/foster-care-adoption/" target="_blank">http://forums.adoption.com/foster-care-adoption/</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 613806, member: 1550"] Well, I'm going to chime in again. Your son is nothing like this child and you don't have other kids who don't understand and need to be protected. It is one thing to worry about your chlld's future as far as independence and going to college and another to worry that he may seriously harm somebody else. I did not see any "hate" in Aimless's posts. She is dealing with something most people even on this board do not understand and she has seven other kids. If you had seven other kids, or even one, and J. suddenly jumped out and tried to choke a two year old, you would not feel much compassion for him at that time. You would feel fear and maybe momentarily something else. You would angst over whether or not it is safe for the child to live at home. You would be searching for solutions, as Aimless said. I am assuming that since France and Morocco do not even acknowledge that many kids have ADHD, there is probably a lack of knowledge about attachment issues as well. Before you judge, perhaps you should go to an adoption site (I am going to post one for Aimless) where not only do these people understand, but they can maybe direct her to places that can help her with this child. You are trying to help J. pretty much by yourself and medication and he has more moderate difficulties, so you may be able to do it. Maybe. Time will tell. But this family can not do this...they can not afford to say "poor little kid" because there are other kids who could get hurt by him. She needs to find help, both for him and for the rest of them...practical help. I wish WE had done that. Malika, you have a good heart. Time will tell if understanding and compassion is enough for your cutie pie. Either way, you do not have to worry about the safety of other children. It's different. It is more urgent. Here is the link to the adoption site. They understand Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and even have one forum just for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) kids. I am sorry you had to experience people who don't understand this tragic problem. Ok, here's the link: [URL]http://forums.adoption.com/foster-care-adoption/[/URL] [/QUOTE]
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