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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 100967"><p>We have talked about things in depth time and again. I laid in bed last night wondering about the depression and I just don't know. I see some signs, but then I see others that indicate otherwise. I know he's having a hard time with the move and the financial stress. We've had to cut way back on extras, but many families do that on a regular basis or at least during tight times. Life happens and we have to make the best of it.</p><p></p><p>He talks about the house being messy. My house NEVER used to be messy. I was a complete neat freak - which living with a difficult child meant cleaning everyday. It has only been in the last couple of years as my health has deteriorated that it's become an issue. Most of the time it's presentable, but not the standards I used to keep. Some days it does look like the house exploded on itself. </p><p></p><p>But, you know what? I'm tired of being held to these impossible standards. Interestingly enough, he doesn't remember how things used to be in regards to the house. He only remembers the bad. But with his dad, he forgets the bad. I think that's what's getting to me the most. Even difficult child reminded him of how unhappy he is every single time he goes to his dad's.</p><p></p><p>One concern I have about him going to his dad's is that if at the end of the school year, easy child has changed his mind I *know* his dad won't let him come back. And as we'll have to change custody in order for easy child to attend school, there won't be much I can do without it costing me a ton of money. And I *know* with as much certainty as one can have that he will change his mind. He's miserable after a 3 week visit.</p><p></p><p>I have made sure to tell difficult child how proud I am of her and how much I appreciate her seeing a need and stepping in to fill it. I've also let her hear me bragging about her to others. She's my angel girl again. :smile:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 100967"] We have talked about things in depth time and again. I laid in bed last night wondering about the depression and I just don't know. I see some signs, but then I see others that indicate otherwise. I know he's having a hard time with the move and the financial stress. We've had to cut way back on extras, but many families do that on a regular basis or at least during tight times. Life happens and we have to make the best of it. He talks about the house being messy. My house NEVER used to be messy. I was a complete neat freak - which living with a difficult child meant cleaning everyday. It has only been in the last couple of years as my health has deteriorated that it's become an issue. Most of the time it's presentable, but not the standards I used to keep. Some days it does look like the house exploded on itself. But, you know what? I'm tired of being held to these impossible standards. Interestingly enough, he doesn't remember how things used to be in regards to the house. He only remembers the bad. But with his dad, he forgets the bad. I think that's what's getting to me the most. Even difficult child reminded him of how unhappy he is every single time he goes to his dad's. One concern I have about him going to his dad's is that if at the end of the school year, easy child has changed his mind I *know* his dad won't let him come back. And as we'll have to change custody in order for easy child to attend school, there won't be much I can do without it costing me a ton of money. And I *know* with as much certainty as one can have that he will change his mind. He's miserable after a 3 week visit. I have made sure to tell difficult child how proud I am of her and how much I appreciate her seeing a need and stepping in to fill it. I've also let her hear me bragging about her to others. She's my angel girl again. [img]:smile:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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