Yesterday, gfg15, gfg9, and I had the greatest counseling session of all! I left feeling hopeful!
I actually saw real respect from gfg15, this is new. Not a respect that is required, but a given respect, if that makes sense, I felt a sense of her giving me her respect!
- I was talking to gfg15 about her and how I'd like her to share with me her real feelings daily, she wasn't looking at me, she was just looking around, and I had no clue if she was truly listening, so without even raising my voice, I just calmly said "Focus" - with that simple word, my gfg15 lifted her head, and gave me 100% direct eye-to-eye contact and held it while I finished.
Gfg15, after us talking, shared with me 3 emotional feelings she was feeling, WOW!, that was progress! That made me elated. Because I told her in the beginning of the session, when I ask "how are you feeling" I'm not looking for "fine, good, okay, etc" - that instead I truly and deeply want to know whats she's feeling. And she did it! Without much prompting, without making it seem like I was asking too much, without defiance!
And the cherry on top of all of this: gfg15 and gfg9 got along the whole session. They cuddled, they loved, they hugged, they smiled, they joked - no tension between them, no 'fighting' for top daughter status - just pure love between the two.
Ahhhh..... I relish in yesterdays' session.
Their is the bewilderment of why? Why did the whole thing go so well? Is this pure progress for gfg15, that will stay around most of the time? Will it continue? Does her medication increase last week while at the hospital assist in this change?
I actually saw real respect from gfg15, this is new. Not a respect that is required, but a given respect, if that makes sense, I felt a sense of her giving me her respect!
- I was talking to gfg15 about her and how I'd like her to share with me her real feelings daily, she wasn't looking at me, she was just looking around, and I had no clue if she was truly listening, so without even raising my voice, I just calmly said "Focus" - with that simple word, my gfg15 lifted her head, and gave me 100% direct eye-to-eye contact and held it while I finished.
Gfg15, after us talking, shared with me 3 emotional feelings she was feeling, WOW!, that was progress! That made me elated. Because I told her in the beginning of the session, when I ask "how are you feeling" I'm not looking for "fine, good, okay, etc" - that instead I truly and deeply want to know whats she's feeling. And she did it! Without much prompting, without making it seem like I was asking too much, without defiance!
And the cherry on top of all of this: gfg15 and gfg9 got along the whole session. They cuddled, they loved, they hugged, they smiled, they joked - no tension between them, no 'fighting' for top daughter status - just pure love between the two.
Ahhhh..... I relish in yesterdays' session.
Their is the bewilderment of why? Why did the whole thing go so well? Is this pure progress for gfg15, that will stay around most of the time? Will it continue? Does her medication increase last week while at the hospital assist in this change?