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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 36794" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>She is 12 right? Is she on any medications? </p><p>My children are a lot younger, but I would think starting slow would be more of a benefit for all of you, rewards are good also. </p><p>Like if she is able to keep quiet for the first few minutes in the car say something right away, let her know how much you appreciate it. Let her know if she can keep it up she will get something special. Like a book, a treat, extra tv or whatever she will find rewarding. </p><p>Really try to point out the good things before the bad happens, even if it is only 2 minutes of good...</p><p>Sometimes this encouragement leads to more good behaviour. I have to do this with my difficult child 1, she can not self direct or do anything by herself, so even if it is 3minutes of coloring I tell her how proud I am that she did it by herself, and if she does something on her own!!! I am all over her with praise!!!</p><p>I have to remind myself sometimes to do these things I get caught up in the drama of the day to day and the stress... I just let her know how happy I was that she had kept her hands to herself for awhile today!!!</p><p>I exagerate how happy I am and how good she is doing, but it makes her feel really good.</p><p>I also wouldn't make the punishment so extreme, it seems like it isn't working and maybe try the positive for a bit and give her a couple of chances, before a smaller punishment.</p><p>Just a thought</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 36794, member: 3155"] She is 12 right? Is she on any medications? My children are a lot younger, but I would think starting slow would be more of a benefit for all of you, rewards are good also. Like if she is able to keep quiet for the first few minutes in the car say something right away, let her know how much you appreciate it. Let her know if she can keep it up she will get something special. Like a book, a treat, extra tv or whatever she will find rewarding. Really try to point out the good things before the bad happens, even if it is only 2 minutes of good... Sometimes this encouragement leads to more good behaviour. I have to do this with my difficult child 1, she can not self direct or do anything by herself, so even if it is 3minutes of coloring I tell her how proud I am that she did it by herself, and if she does something on her own!!! I am all over her with praise!!! I have to remind myself sometimes to do these things I get caught up in the drama of the day to day and the stress... I just let her know how happy I was that she had kept her hands to herself for awhile today!!! I exagerate how happy I am and how good she is doing, but it makes her feel really good. I also wouldn't make the punishment so extreme, it seems like it isn't working and maybe try the positive for a bit and give her a couple of chances, before a smaller punishment. Just a thought [/QUOTE]
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