Hello, I am brand new to this forum. I have two beautiful boys aged five and one and for the past three years my family has been held hostage by my five year old. I love him with all my heart but he is out of control. He is verbally abusive to both me and my husband, my baby and everyone around him. He will attack my one year old with fists, weapons, and feet. He also attacks his teachers and anyone who comes into contact with him. For the past three years we have desperately sought help to no avail. Whenever, we would take him in to be evaluated you would swear an angel came down to earth. He is highly intelligent, manipulative, aggressive, and has no remorse. We have tried everything! Time outs he throws the chair at you! When taking away toys he will pick up all his toys and throw them into the trash and tell you that it doesn't matter. When we try talking to him on his level he will strike your face and spit at you. He tells us he wants to kill us and God. He refuses to listen or do anything we say and when we try to be assertive he will become combatant. We are at desperation's end because he recently told people that my husband had kicked him and we had the police investigate. Then CPS became involved when the police noticed bruising on my one year old and my son confessed to beating his brother. They took my five year old from our home because CPS witnessed him beating his brother and myself. My heart and my family has been broken. We had an informal meeting with a psychologist because we now have to go through councilling before they will allow him to be around his brother or us because of the threat of violence he poses to us. During our meeting the psychologist said that he is 'fairly certain' my son is ADHD/ODD. Previously, my son had been labeled with Intermittent Explosive Disorder. The police and CPS have both stated that they do not believe we were abusing my son but in everyone else's eyes we are seen as abusive parents even though we have been proven not to be. I have desperately tried to get help but no one would help us because my son would not show his true colors around others until recently. I can't even convey how I feel right now. I'm hurting and my family is hurting. I need to know that there are others out there who have gone through this and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.